dealing with bipolar girlfriend's aggression Posted: 03-18-08 12:11pm
We have been together for nine months, and
for most of that time i have been
something of a 'light' in her life, but
over the last two weeks things have
changed and now i am on the end of her
aggression, and i am the target of her
hurt.
I know she loves me alot, and i know she
has extremely low self worth, and she
admits that at times she tries to sabotage
our relationship because she doesn't feel
like she deserves me and because she is
scared that i might leave her one day
anyway.
I could really do with some advice or to
be able to talk with someone who
understands better than i do about what
she is experiencing and how i can best
serve her. I love her and i am determined
to stick by her regardless of what she
throws at me, but i need to know what i
can do that will be best for her.
Thank you.
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CarolDiane
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Posted: 03-18-08 18:43pm
You have already answered you own
question. "Regardless of what she throws
at me". That is the key to a BP
relationship. Stand by her during her bad
cycles and just be there for her. The more
you are there, the less she will think you
will leave her and become more confident
about the relationship.
Hang in there. If you love her as much as
you say you do, it will all work out. Us
BP people tend to do stupid and errational
things sometimes.
Carrie
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antigone
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Posted: 03-18-08 23:03pm
Unfortunately, the people that are the
most trusted and loved are the targets of
the anger, rage, and uncertainty that
accompanies bipolar disorder in someone.
The plus side is that it shows how much
she trusts you and loves you. This seems
to be opposite to what one would think but
people that suffer with bpd need to vent.
When they vent they want to be safe with
who they go off on. My kids give me all
the rage and anger. I am the one they feel
safe to vent with. I know that is not
quite the same but I have read this to be
true in many situations.
Get some counseling to have a place to
bounce feelings and ideas around. Get a
new perspective on the situation and some
advice on coping.
