You have already answered you own question. "Regardless of what she throws at me". That is the key to a BP relationship. Stand by her during her bad cycles and just be there for her. The more you are there, the less she will think you will leave her and become more confident about the relationship.

Hang in there. If you love her as much as you say you do, it will all work out. Us BP people tend to do stupid and errational things sometimes.

Carrie

Unfortunately, the people that are the most trusted and loved are the targets of the anger, rage, and uncertainty that accompanies bipolar disorder in someone. The plus side is that it shows how much she trusts you and loves you. This seems to be opposite to what one would think but people that suffer with bpd need to vent. When they vent they want to be safe with who they go off on. My kids give me all the rage and anger. I am the one they feel safe to vent with. I know that is not quite the same but I have read this to be true in many situations.

Get some counseling to have a place to bounce feelings and ideas around. Get a new perspective on the situation and some advice on coping.

There's a balance. You want to be there for her, and you want to set limits on aggressive behaviors. Stick by her. It's a delicate balance that I really wouldn't know how to handle. It's hard to be someone's punching bag during a spell. I know my sister-in-law, who I care a lot for, really became verbally abusive to me during an episode. It was a shock! I didn't know how to handle it. I think things like this have to be approached with strength and caring.

Good luck!

i dated a bipolar girl for some time and i become her little punching bag..you know the one to pick up all of the pieces when things were bad. I have heard it all my friend..i have dealt with all of the lies, cheating, using,..etc..etc. My advice is don't stand by them when they are kicking you. Set strict and stringent limits and when those limits are crossed you walk..and don't balk when you walk..you stand up for yourself. I know the best thing that ever happened to me was to get her out of my life. I cared for this girl more than anything on the planet. I was always there to help..this is the thing you really have to look for with bipolars..they tell you things that are the truth, but only partial truths..for example..i have a family thing to go to..translation..i'm going to visit my cousin and we are going out to the clubs with a bunch of people. You see she really didn't lie because a cousin is family..she just left out the fact that there were a bunch of other people there..this girl is 36 with a child mind you..divorced and got into another relationship while she was married..cheating with the next door neighbor who she bought a house with and he ended up cheating on her..i didn't find this out until after our relationship was over .. if i had known any of this i would have been gone a lonngg time before. these are the little things that you have to look forward to with a bipolar..if you are with a bipolar and feel you can't get out you may have a co-dependent issue that you may want to look into.