i am not a virgin an it has made my boyfriend fall in to a depression.i want him to get help to fight his depression and to forget about my past.i love him so much an i wouldnt leave me,i want to help him and fight this depression.He just dosent see me as being with another guy before him and it hurts me becouse its my past and i cant do anything about it.i wish i could time travel and maybe change a lot of dumb mistakes but i just cant.what sc]hould i do,and tell him to make him feel better.im planning for having counseling.he once went through a depression at age of 8 becouse of family problems and its happening again.i feel guilty but i know that i just cant change the past and just worry about the present.i want him to be in the present with me,an i know we could both make it.He just get mood swings specially when im not around him ,but i go to school so i just cant be with him 24/7 ive even wanted to drop out.i just get to stressed out that im failing sum tests.its sad cause i know that he is suffering.i really need some advice.
dear lovely being in love has nothing to do with virginity if he won't get over it you should please your self in other ways like i would suggest for him to explore his own sexuality and mentally lift himself out of comfort zone
Dear Dayana, Your boyfriend needs attention from a therapist. First, let me tell you you cannot let ANYONE interfere with your life and what you need to do like your school! If you're flunking tests because of worrying about him then the relationship is messing you both up! I know it's easier said than done because I too just cant focus when I'm worrying about my boyfriend but I know from past experiences that you always have to be able to do what you need to do. Second, I would tell you to ensure him that you guys are together now and you did what you did with the guy/s and that was before you guys were together. This you cannot control! Comfort him and be there for him and let him know that you can't change your past but you have full control of your future and that future is him! Let him know that your souly his now and don't ever think of other guys like that. Ensure him that he's the one you think about and ask him to go to counsling. Beg him if you have to!! He has somethings he needs to talk about with someone who doesnt know him and has a degree in helping people like himself. If he wont go to counsling alone then you go with him to be his mental support. Theres lots of young people who are "born again virgins." Of course there is no way to actually make yourself a virgin again but what it is is clensing your mind and soul of any previous sexual encounters.. You're not physically a virgin again but you erase everything from your mind. I think you should also research this and if you like the idea explain it to him and let him know you're releasing yourself as a "born again virgin" for both you and him. I hope this is somewhat helpful for you.