how can i help her the doctor has said if
she carries on like she is she will be
dead in 12 months if she loses anymore
weight this month she will end up in
hospital. I dont know what to do to help
her no one has really told me what to do.
she is also having counselling. I am
blaming my self. But they have said it is
caused by her being bullied at school. can
anyone give me any advice please.
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DemolishedMuse
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Posted: 04-25-08 03:00am
You should not blame yourself. Never blame
yourself. If it is because she is bullied
in school, it's the bullies you should
blame.
The thing you can do, as I can see it, is
merely presenting these things you heard
from the doctor to her (if she hadn't
already heard them) in a very calm way.
Not accusing her of anything, and never
force her to eat (well, obviously she does
eat but throws it up). She knows that she
should be eating, common knowledge is that
bodies malfunction without nourishment,
but I think that she feels a bit like I do
myself (I'm disgusted by food and the
thought of eating it).
Have you tried to talk to her? I mean,
-really- tried?
Let her tell you her story. Ask her what
the reason is that she throws up what
she's eaten.
Not;
"But dear Emily, why? WHY are you doing
this?! Tell me!"
But more like;
"Hey sweety, how are you feeling? Have
you eaten anything today? No? Why not?
Care to tell me?"
Don't push her into telling you. Let her
tell you when she can. If you push her,
she'll feel more guilty and maybe ashamed
(the reactions are very unique from person
to person, I'm only referring to how I
would have reacted).
Try and be her friend in this situation,
not so very much her mother. If she
refuses to talk to you, have her see a
psychologist or someone in the likening of
one.
I hope this can be somewhat helpful. Let
me know if you need someone to talk to.
//E
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nightangel73
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Posted: 04-27-08 10:37am
demolished I have question for you. If you
have the problem that you are disgusted by
food and the thought of eating it, how can
you possibly change that? Just learning to
eat disgusting food? Is there really no
food that you like?? Not even cake and
candies? Is it like shut down of your
taste buds, that not even sweet food taste
sweet to you? I'm just curious.
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shirley101
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my daughter Posted: 04-29-08 04:48am
my daughter is getting worse she is not
eating and drinking very little been back
to doctors she has lost weight very
quickly the doctor going to ring my
daughter food disorder counscellor up to
discuss with her whats happened my
daughter crying out for help. wants to to
get back to normal and says she wished she
never started it. her weight loss is
really bad they keep saying about taking
her into hospital but it seems all talk
how long will they leave her before taking
her into hospital we are trying our best
with her but we dont no how to deal with
it thanks for your reply
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DemolishedMuse
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Posted: 04-30-08 03:30am
Night Angel, let's not discuss that in
this thread, shall we? This one is about
Shirley's daughter. If you want to
question my opinions and my way of
expressing myself, please send me a
private message or e-mail. Our discussions
should not affect this forum. Thank you.
And as for you Shirley, that's just awful
to hear! But, it seems as though she wants
to get better, and that's a good start. In
which country/state do you live? I don't
know about other countries, but here in
Sweden we have lots of great support
groups and rehabilitation programs, look
around and see what you can find if the
doctors won't do anything more for your
daughter (which would be totally INSANE,
thinking about in how bad a state she
seems to be).
God bless you and your daughter,
E
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shirley101
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Posted: 05-01-08 09:27am
we live in england we are getting some
help also talked to someone who has had a
daughter who was the same as my daughter
and someone who has also been through it
which has helped me to understand it abit
more have been through it or still going
through it E my daughter says she fed up
with talking to different people and says
its not doing any good and not sinking in
what they say het heart beat has also
dropped and waiting for test results to
come back all these is really scary for
both me and my daughter and still trying
hard to get fluid in her we have also been
told its going to be a long hard battle to
get back right but just hoping we get
through this thankyou though for replying
back to me
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DemolishedMuse
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Posted: 05-03-08 11:48am
Yes, it's going to be a long, tough fight,
but I think you guys will make it through.
I pray for your daughter and your entire
family.
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