I have been living with my mate for 2
years now and I am going through nothin
but frustration due to his drinking
heavily and lack of communication. When I
first met this individual I made it clear
to him that I dont' like the heavy
drinking but unfortunately he kept giving
me the charm and I end up caring about
him. I started to drink heavy but now I
am turning a new leaf. My man has two
brother's who are also alcoholics which I
feel is very sad. There is one brother in
particular who is constantly calling my
mate and when he comes to get him they end
up getting drunk and high. This is an on
going situation and now I am so frustrated
that I dont' know what to do anymore. I
try to talk to my mate but he refuses to
open up to me. If and when I try to have a
serious talk he tends to yell at me to
discourage me from continuing. My mate is
a very affectionate individual when he is
intoxicated but seems to be cold whenever
he is sober. He is a nice man but his
priorities are in the wrong place. I feel
that his brother comes first and I am on
the back burner though I am the one that
takes care of this individual and treat
him like a king. At the present time, I
have locked my doors and windows and I am
not going to accept his phone calls but I
would like to know what is the best next
step. Thank you, Frustrated and Sad
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lonestarguy
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Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 584 Location: , Hoosierland, USA
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Posted: 04-03-08 10:39am
Waterfall......this is a very sad, but
predictable dilemma which many women go
through. It does sound like he is addicted
to alcohol and, unfortunately, he is the
one who needs to make up his mind to
quit.
It sounds as if you are trying very hard
to get him to stop, but he obviously
doesn't want your advice or help. If he
goes out regularly with his brother and
gets drunk, he is not going to listen. He
probably thought when you joined him and
drank heavily, that you were approving his
drinking.
If it were me, I'd consider leaving him
for good since he shows no signs of
listening to you and quitting. He is
probably facing a long, hard battle to get
over alcoholism and the only chance he's
got is to contact AA and try for a new
life. You know him better than I do, so
you need to decide whether this is the way
you want life to be for you.
Good luck.
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CarolDiane
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Joined: 23 Sep 2007 Posts: 2206 Location: Finally a picture to a name,
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Posted: 04-03-08 17:12pm
I agree with lonestarguy. Unless he wants
to quit, your fighting a loosing battle if
he does not want to guit or have the will.
Sounds like he does not want any help at
this time. Seperate, and see what happens.
Sometimes, that will be the thing that
makes his bottom fall out and want to get
sober.
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