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Q: Dangers associated with close pregnancies

asked by: pcrmummy on July 10th, 2009

New User

Im 26 years old and a mother to 3 children. My oldest is due to turn 3 in August, my middle child has just turned 1 and my youngest is 12 weeks.

I tried for my 2nd child when my 1st was a year old, and i caught for her after about 2 months.

My 3rd child was conceived when my middle child was just 6 weeks old. The condom split and the morning after pill failed. I continued with the pregnancy and had a healthy baby boy (all 3 pregnancies have been problem free)

I found out yesterday that im pregnant again. I stupidly, very stupidly believed that the 'pull out' method wouldn't get me pregnant. Due to circumstances I can not continue with this pregnancy. I suffer from depression, as does my partner. Our home isn't suitable to bring another child into.

Im away from home for 4 weeks now, and dont know what to do. Am i putting myself in danger by waiting until i get home to go and see my GP - or am i able to go and see someone while im away? Im roughly about 5 weeks pregnant.

I know ive been stupid, and after the last time I should have learnt. We have started using condoms, and i was waiting for my period to come so I could have the implant fitted. I done the test yesterday and it was positive.

Any advice would be very much appreciated.

Thank you

Annmarie

Replies(6)

motherofhighspiritedones

replied on July 10th, 2009

Moderator

Only you can decide if abortion is right or wrong for you, just as only you can decide if adoption could be considered an alternative option, should you want to continue your pregnancy. I believe that you can have the medical abortion (a series of pills) up until the 10th week of pregnancy and after that they usually do the D&C combined with aspiration. Please correct me if I am wrong. Either way, you can get an abortion done away from home, just be sure that you have some sort of support for either method.

pcrmummy

replied on July 15th, 2009

New User

Hi motherofhighspiritedones, thank you for your reply. If i was to continue with this pregnancy, there is no way i could carry my baby, feel him / her move and kick, give birth and then hand him / her over to someone else. That is something I just could not do.

My partner and I have discussed this and the best thing for us and our children now would be to not have anymore children. We are not financially stable, both suffer with depression, and we find it hard with the 3 we have now as they are all so small.

Im going to go and see my own GP when im home or go to my local Family Planning Clinic.

I really appreciate you taking the time to respond to me.

shortys_girl2009

replied on October 15th, 2009

New User

I think anyone who wants a abortion is looking for a easy fix. They dont want to take responsibility for their actions. I am a mom of 7 and would never choose that option. Being able to bring life into this world is a blessing. And I do think that if you dont want this child then you need to pick adoption, You say that you couldnt give your child up, but you can kill it, how fair is that?

oopoopoop

replied on October 15th, 2009

Extremely eHealthy

shortys_girl2009 wrote:

I agree that anyone who already has three children should definitely give up subsequent ones for adoption if they choose not to abort. That is more than enough for anyone, even someone who likes to stick their nose into other people's business. Surely your brood should be keeping you busy enough that you don't need to try to interfere with other people's lives as well? Really, someone who just keeps reproducing and reproducing like that must think their own DNA is pretty superior. Too bad it is all this excessive procreation that is destroying the planet.

Phenicks

replied on October 15th, 2009

Experienced User

shortys_girl2009 wrote:

Some could jsut as easily reduce you to your womb as you've done to her. What's the difference in having a bunch of abortions and having a bunch of babies? NOTHING. She has 3 children she tried to prevent another and has admitted- although it was NOBODY'S business- that she has depression. That's a shitload to ask of anyone. Tell me, if she committed suicide or her partner committed suicide or either of them hurt the baby as a REAL CONSEQUENCE of both their depression and the added stress of another child do YOU plan on serving the prison time for them? Taking the blame? Erasing their guilt? Raising their children in their stead?

If you don't want YOUR choices put on blast or criticized don't do it to others.

nightangel73

replied on October 16th, 2009

Extremely eHealthy

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