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March 15th, 2010
Big Deal!
Wow! Sounds to me like everyone here is over reacting a bit. Your dad is quite normal. He obviously enjoys masterbating as many people do, especially men. Surely the fact that your dad masterbates is not the only reason you want your own place or feel a need to get away from him. Unfortunatly he's a bit shy and insecure to talk about it. I'm a 36yo man, married with two kids, one boy one girl, we are a very open family. My kids know I masterbate and I know they do too. And I have masterbated in the same hotel room with them sleeping.
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replied December 19th, 2012
not good!
I have had serious problems with sexual disfunciton relating to my father masturbating in the same bed as me. We had a family bed and my father who is a sex addict masterbated in the room with me almost nightly. Most of the time while I was asleep but I would wake up the it. It is not "normal" as much as you would like it to be. I understand wanting the pleaure yourself. However, you are putting your kids at great risk. You do not need to be in the same room with your children while you are doing this. In my mind you are putting your childs mental health at risk becuase you are unwilling to get up and leave the room to take care of your buisness. It is a big deal and has serious ramifications. CPS will take kids out of a home for this kind of action.
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replied March 17th, 2010
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Re: Big Deal!
mikebolling wrote:
Wow! Sounds to me like everyone here is over reacting a bit. Your dad is quite normal. He obviously enjoys masterbating as many people do, especially men. Surely the fact that your dad masterbates is not the only reason you want your own place or feel a need to get away from him. Unfortunatly he's a bit shy and insecure to talk about it. I'm a 36yo man, married with two kids, one boy one girl, we are a very open family. My kids know I masterbate and I know they do too. And I have masterbated in the same hotel room with them sleeping.
Being an open family is great. But privacy should still be respected. I would highly disagree with masturbation in front of my children, just as I am sure they would highly disagree with me sitting down on their beds to casually converse while they masturbate. Masturbation is normal. A parent masturbating in front of their child or wanting to converse or carry on daily activities while their child masturbates is crossing a line. I am not saying you are doing that...but seriously, masturbating while your child is in the same hotel room with you? Are there not BATHROOMS in that same hotel room you can take care of yourself in?
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replied March 20th, 2010
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Hi zerobeloved,

Please call Child Protective Services you can get the number by dialing 411 or look in your local phone book. You can also contact your local Prosecuting Attorney's Office by dialing 411 or looking in your local phone book. This is the man who is responsible for you being in the world ( I think, you may want to verify that with a DNA Test), I say that because what Father in their right mind ( and I use the term "right mind" loosely here) would mentally sexually abuse their child, regardless of the age? This JERK, FREAK is ruining you psychologically, emotionally for life!!! He is a very sick, sick, sick pervert and needs to be classified as a pedofiler....you have to contact the District Attorney's Office ASAP please zeroloved. You can't stay there or wait another day.

Please keep us posted or contact me directly via my personal email, I will me more than happy to help you.


God Bless You Dear....

P. S. A real loving father doesn't act like that... I am willing to bet the farm that he has done the same thing to your sister....ask her and tell her what he is doing to you and see if you aren't the only child he has done this to and if you don't stop him he will do it to other childeren...only it will be RAPE!!!
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replied April 1st, 2010
FadedRose: You''ll be happy to know that i''m moving out and i''m going to stay with some ppl i attend church with
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replied April 7th, 2010
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This is really serious!
Anyone that is even attempting to justify this behavior of masturbating in the same room as your child is flat out ridiculous! This is inappropriate to say the least. This is also a form of what child molesters and rapists do to groom their victims and can not be taken lightly. Giving advice to a young women that this is really no big deal nothing to worry about is reprehensible. This is also in fact already child abuse!!! Its immoral, illegal, traumatizing and anyone who disagrees is just being foolish.
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replied July 1st, 2010
im 14 and that is sick he shouldnt be doing tht that awfull
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replied July 2nd, 2010
Sleepwalking Masturbation
I heard about this being a type of sleep disorder while I was studying psychology and it makes sense why he would deny it. It would be very embarrassing for him to explain to his daughter if he was caught. I remember the professor saying this can happen after the death of wife and no sexual partner has come into the picture. The professor also said to think about it as passionate REM dream of their partner remembering their most sacred time with them.
The information I put is from sleepsex.org.
As early as 1996, (Shapiro, Fedoroff and Trajanovic, 1996) SBS was identified as a medical condition that may place one at risk of being accused of sexual assault. Thus, if a person is aware of their SBS and takes it seriously, this knowledge may carry with it some accountability for not taking actions to prevent sexual misconduct.

SBS is listed in the most current (revised) edition of the International Classification of Sleep Disorders (ICSD-2), which is the diagnostic manual used by sleep medicine practitioners to make diagnoses. Although it is recognized as a sub-type of parasomnia, "sexsomnia" is not included as a particular type of sleep disorder with its own diagnosis.

SBS is mentioned in the ICSD-2 and recent medical research suggests sexual behavior in sleep is a distinct form of sleep-related behavior in the class "parasomnia" (Shapiro et al, 1996; 2003; Schenck & Mahowald, 2005). Over the past five years information in the popular realm has become available (e.g., articles have appeared in Cosmopolitan, Redbook, Details, Newsweek). A Web search will yield a number of information sources. However, the community of legal and health professionals and the lay public remain largely "in the dark" when it comes to SBS and its clinical and forensic implcations.

In fact, when one discovers their own SBS, usually after being informed about their behavior by a bed partner, they themselves are unlikely to believe that could behave in such a fashion. Often this is a source of conflict in couples as it is embarrassing to accept it as fact. Even when one reports another's (that is, a person complains he/she has been fondled, etc., by a person who clearly appeared to be asleep), to a friend or health care provider in an attempt to try to get some support and to encourage their partner to treat his/her SBS, these persons cannot expect others to believe that they have experienced unwanted sexual contact initiated by a sleeping individual.
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replied July 26th, 2010
What? Apparently your dad has mental illness, and he should join ehealth forum to cure his sickness (if it can be cured)
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replied October 13th, 2010
This is abuse.
You really should have told someone when it first began. Once you are moved out he may seek out other children. Please have an adult male from your church speak to your father.
He is a sexual predator.
Masturbation is fine,not with children present!
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replied December 21st, 2010
sick as hell
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