Relationships and Marriage Forum - Cyber Cheating Boyfriend

okay here is the deal! My Boyfriend is on craigslist answering personal adds for sex.You know alot of it is scams but he dont care now days its so easy to reach out to all kinds of people. Anymore details I might need a response first. I don't know if he will act on it maybe he is just getting off on just talking dirty to women online. Not that I condone his behavior but he has always been into porn and masturbation. I cant change that about him he loves sex maybe too much! I have asked him if he is looking for sex online or else where. Keep in mind I already know what he is doing online He keeps lying to me saying no l love you and Im happy with you. I have no reason to lie. This just makes me more angry. I have been with him for 6 years and its very difficult for me to take I think i might have a stroke from the stress he doesn't get at all bothered like me but of course im not trying to hook up on line either what should he be worried about, right? Anything he is very exhibitionist he loves to be naked and I am a little more conservative, but he swears that he is totally satisfied with me so what am i to do shouldn't i believe him if i ask him straight out and that is his answer? If your not happy sexually wouldn't find a way out of it? I don't want my 6 yrs to be a waste and not be able to work through this I deserve the truth dont I? If I can't get him to open up even if its going to hurt me atleast I will know he is being honest that will help me let go of him for good!!!! I hope this makes some kind of sense and sorry for the punc and typos..help?

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JavaMissus

replied on August 3rd, 2009

Moderator

And what will it be next?...He loves Porn....Probably loves to masturbate...Loves to talk dirty to women online....Loves to run around naked in your home...And he tells you that he is totally satisfied with you....As for me, I see a red flag followed by another red flag....I think you do too, or else you wouldn't be asking for advice....What I can't understand is your statement of your "6 years to be a waste?"...It seems to me that you have already exceeded this....

Don't sell yourself short...You are deserving of far more than you are getting...Go for it...Best wishes...

Caroline

Jinjer

replied on August 4th, 2009

Experienced User

Does he know that you know he answers personal ads on craigslist? It's kind of difficult to get a handle on your situation. The way I read it is that you are aware of all of these things he is doing and your letting him? Not confronting him or telling him how you feel about it? Please correct me if I am wrong. How is he supposed to know how you feel about it if you don't tell him. If he is aware of how you feel about it then that just makes him a selfish jerk when he continues to do it with total disregard of your feelings.

Chowbella

replied on August 4th, 2009

New User

sprinkle7

replied on August 5th, 2009

New User

Telling you to let go is something that you just will not do. Been there and done that. The only way to get the truth is to talk to one of the women that he is seeing. Confirm with yourself that he is definitely cheating. You will have closure. You will stop fighting him and really see him for what he is---a cheater. I am very sorry, but you will not move forward until you get the truth for yourself. So go ahead...dig up the dirt and get on with your life. You will be much stronger next go around.

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nemequittemas

replied on August 13th, 2009

New User

babe, i have been there. i was there for 2 years - at 6, you need to get out before it's too late. LEAVE HIM.

W0LF

replied on August 14th, 2009

Extremely eHealthy

Is salvaging 6 years worth the risk of wasting another year with him? It sounds like you're really tired of his behavior but not tired enough to take a stand for some reason. Talk with him, tell him how his behavior makes you feel and ask him what he's willing to do about it.

jaztina

replied on August 17th, 2009

New User

im in this position right now, my man is doing the same thing, i caught him again this morning and i confronted him about it, he says he loves me and that im his world. i told him that i cannot do this anymore. but i love him so much, i dnt want to lose him, i jst want him to change and stop doing it.

W0LF

replied on August 17th, 2009

Extremely eHealthy

Hey jaztina
You may not think too highly of your boyfriend but unlike a diaper you can't change him because he no longer feels comfortable. He is who he is and that is the man you fell in love with. Changing a behavior isn't going to do anything about it's cause. You can either accept him or move on from him.

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