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Q: Cutting after boyfriend left
asked by: EmoKid896 on February 2nd, 2009
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Me and my ex-boyfriend were going out for about 6 months and we got really close but then he dicided that i wasnt good enough for him so he broke up with me.
Ever since then i've been cutting and getting very depressed very fast. I cant talk to my mum about it cuz she did know that we went out and he was 3 yrs older than me.
she would of killed me. But when i cut myself i could were tanktops and they wouldnt notice. It makes me feel like they dont care. i cant talk to my friends cuz i hardly have any. it doesnt help that my parents are fighting.
I've tried suicide lik 3 times and its not getting better.
need help!!
Its been over 7 months now i think sence we broke up
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PinkMessenger
replied on February 2nd, 2009
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Hey, I can understand how your feeling and kind of know whats happening.

1. Break ups - The are never easy, no matter how old you are or how many relationships youve had they are all different but you learn from them.

2. When someone tells you "your not good enough for them" do you really want to be with someone like that? But, was that his exact words? Sometimes when we are emotionally hurt we blame ourselves for everything as its can be the only reason. 6 months in my eyes is not enough to really know someone but enough to get attched, your heart is still floating in love with this person, and perhaps your trying to shake out of it? But can't find away? You can - You need to write down all the questions that are bothering you. Even about your parents. Write down everything and get it off your chest. Because when you think about things in your head its get all confused and emotional, but when you write things down it releaves stress and helps you to put things into perpective and realise how you can manage things more and deal with the situation and fight back.

3. Your parents and support. It sounds like your caughtin a palce where you need support and no one is listening. - There are other ways like caling a chairty phoneline where they have councellors that can give free and expert advice or even just listen to you. I spoke to Samaritans on the phone and they left me feeling like a weight was lifted from my shoulders.

4. Time - The pain aint going to go away ovrnight, the heart has alot of questions to be answered so it can feel strong again and help you to move on. You need to stay positive and focused, as cutting yourself isnt going to help you. its just making your arms look bad . Turn it around if you were a guy and saw a girl with cuttings on her arms , i would feel a little uneasy.
I would l hope tomorrow will be a new day and perhaps you could get your hair done , listen to you favourite music loud and rock it, have a warm bubble bath - small things that make you happy and build on it. And confidence an happiness will flow back- bit by bit. Remember there is only 1 you. And believe it or not your parents may argue but they do love you - I as a mother will alway have pms and bad days but I still have my kids always in my heart.

Be good to yourself, I'm sure your sweet little a Catterpillar ready to turn into a beautiful butterfly x
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J3nnyuk
replied on February 2nd, 2009
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Hey i know it is hard hun but anyone who tells you you are not good enough anymore is not worth even thinking about seriously....i know it is hard because you probably love him but you will find someone who really cares about you but you got to stop cutting that is not the answer....You will make yourself really ill if you don't stop.....you say you cant talk to your parents well maybe try brothers, sisters or even a youth group in your area your parents don't have to know if you go there if you don't want them to but get help hun don't suffer like this....Good luck Jenny
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GlennAt
replied on March 2nd, 2009
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6 months made you try to commit suicide? Yikes.

I don't mean that to sound judgmental. But if you're young and your parents won't approve of who you're dating, the best thing to do is end it. It won't work out, and your only exits will be your family abandoning you, or you running away with him, but most likely being poor in this sad economy.
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EmoKid896
replied on March 30th, 2009
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my ex asked me back out im not sure what to do does any1 have any ideas?????
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noodlesoup
replied on April 8th, 2009
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hun dont take him back at least not until you get things straight with yourself and its never good to cut over someone. also your parents might not notice because they dont want to beleive that somethings wrong because they dont know what to do. or they really could just be oblivious to it my parents were. bottom line dont let a stupid boy who is too stupid to see whats in front of them affect you like this. boys are idiots and frankly we dont need them. i not sayin we cant or shouldnt ever have a boyfriend but dont be so dependant on them to care and love you.
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Fairy Godmother
replied on April 8th, 2009
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I agree
Listen to your head this time, not your heart......your hearts been broken by whom? None other than the same person trying ot enter your life only to let you down again....You are worth far more than this. I agree with imitationssuide...you need to do some soul searching. You play 2nd fiddle in NO ONES BAND....You may not want to hear what I have to say, but its from experience....if you go back to the EX, you'll only be setting our own self up for more unhappiness. With that said, you're gonna do what you want anyways. Just don't want history to repeat itself.
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urmove
replied on May 6th, 2009
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First let me say that I'm a guy and any guy that would tell a woman their not good enough isn't worth anything. Second ..cutting tells me that your buying into a lie about your worth. Thirdly...sounds like you got alot of love to give and you need to start by first loving and respecting yourself and any guy who wants to take that from you needs to get a boot to the curb. There's lots of guys out there who are good hearted guys looking for someone to respect and love so don't give in or worse settle for someone who doesn't deserve you. So hang in there, cause ya can't meet Mr. Right until you get rid of Mr. wrong.
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