My son has lived with me since birth. He is 8 1/2 years old now. His father and I were never married. His father has been in and out of his life since he was 4 months old. The longest he went without seeing my son was almost 2 years. He only makes contact with us if he needs something, and has never asked how our son is. He does not have visitation rights or custody. He does however pay child support monthly.