get bf to suck your nipples ,a nd play with your clitoris for 20 mins, or longer if you need it. you need firm but gentle simulation of nipples for long time, then you will almost certainly reach your climax. you will feel pleased you got there , and bf will enjoy watching as your vaginal muscles clench rhythmically 6 0r 7 times as you orgasm. good luck.

If you can orgasm alone but not with a man, there IS some type of psychological barrier that you need to overcome. You're probably too tense, physically and emotionally, to really enjoy the experience. If you have anything going through your mind while with your partner (besides how good it feels, how sexy he is...) then you need to change your thinking and focus on what is going on. If you have thoughts that what you are doing is wrong, such thoughts can and will prevent you from orgasming. The good news is that this is all under your control. The bad news is that this is all under your control- so it's up to you to change it. lol
Good luck.

i know that this is a late post...but maybe it will help someone. i make it a habit not to fake it. what i do is keep working with the guy on technique to get him to help me get off.

the guy learns a lot in the process, and he has a great sense of accomplishment when it works. so do i! it's a victory!

the other side of this is that in order to do this the woman HAS to know what makes her feel good and she has to be willing to show HIM. he doesn't have our parts and doesn't instinctively know anything about our bodies and what makes us feel good.

it takes the right man, and the right woman. some guys think they know what they're doing and they don't. it has to be a guy who wants to learn, and wants to please the woman. if he doesn't have those objectives in mind, you might as well try to teach a pig to sing...it isn't going to happen.

but with the right guy (right attitude) you can teach him to make you a very happy woman. so let go of your inhibitions, guide him and show him what makes you happy and if he's the right guy, it will work out great for you.

jasmine