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March 15th, 2008
I have been married for going on 30 years now and have always considered my marriage to be strong and have had no real reason to believe she has cheated on me. Lately, I have noticed what I feel is a difference in the way my wife treats me. To be more specific, at times, she seems somewhat distant and cold towards me. She seldom initiates a hug or kiss goodnight and sometimes seems bothered when I take the initiative. When I try to talk to her about it she will blame it on the stresses of her job or she will just get mad and say something like “what did I do now and how should I act.” which solves nothing. Some of the problem may be that I gained some weight recently, (about 35 pounds) and she did complain about that and I am trying to improve. (by the way, I have never complained about her weight when similar gains happened to her) Sex life is okay but she seems to want to get it done with quickly then there is no hugging or cuddling afterwards. I don’t mean to sound like whimp but I miss the affection we used to share.

Now, the reason I have suddenly become more concerned about our relationship. She was away from the house today so I thought I would try to do a little extra around the house so I started the laundry. In the pile of dirty clothes I found a pair of crotchless panties that I have never saw before. Actually, she has always been very conservative about clothing like that and I didn’t even know she owned anything like that. Additionally, they looked a little faded like they had been through the wash more than a few times so it’s not like she just got them.

Yes, there is more to the story, there always is, but I don’t want to write a our life story down.

So, should I be concerned about the clothing and should I ask her about them knowing that it will make her mad?
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meblonde01
replied March 15th, 2008
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You are her husband; yes you should ask her you have a right. Don't accuse her just ask her.
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IMCONCERNED
replied March 16th, 2008
Can I change my name to IMFOOLISH because I overreacted big time. Here’s what happened; my son’s washing machine broke down so he brought his laundry out to our house. Like most sons, instead of doing it himself, he dumped it on good ole Mom and his clothes got mixed with ours and the crotchless panties belong to his girlfriend. Actually, had I looked at them better I would have realized that they were a few sizes too small for my wife. The good news is she got a real good laugh from my err.
We also had a heartfelt talk about the other stuff and we agree that we both have things to work on and I’m convinced things will improve.
It’s unusual for me to overact as I did…I obviously worried myself over absolutely nothing.

Part of me feels foolish for airing this out on a forum like this but if it helps someone else to not overreact than it was worth it.
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meblonde01
replied March 16th, 2008
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well, it tuned out good for you. That's refreshing..
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Hart74
replied March 16th, 2008
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May I ask how old is your wife? Have you ever think the posiblity of menopouse?
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mominashoe
replied March 21st, 2008
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LOL that is a good story, and thanks for the laugh at your expense. I bet you feel much better! I'm glad everything is turning out ok Smile
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Doodle3232
replied March 21st, 2008
aww
You had everey right to be concerned. Its because you love her. But the fact that she laughed it off too insyead of getting mad of you accusing her was great. How embarassing to find your sons girlfriends undies. Poor guy.
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Galaxy
replied March 22nd, 2008
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Ha, that is the best laugh I have ever had on here! Thanks for that! Smile
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CarolDiane
replied March 22nd, 2008
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I too am happy it worked out that way. I wish it would have been that way for me. How bout you cleaning your RV 5th wheel and by the bed you find a folded piece of paper and on it say " Hot coffee for you hon, Love Ya". You open it up and it is a motel receipt! Yep, in two months I was a free unmarried woman. Now if that is not proof, nothing is. Hey, did you think she may be starting menapause? That can trigger many mood swings and libedo changes.
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IMCONCERNED
replied March 30th, 2008
We had a long talk and the problem seems to be stress from work. We both work long hours so we understand that it is something that both of us have to work on and I am sure we will.

Thanks for the input from everyone.
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mikky
replied April 13th, 2008
maybe you shoudl buy her a pair of those ha ha
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Xalleah08
replied June 1st, 2008
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good for you!
It's awesome that you care so much for your wife, and I'm glad you worked it out. You are not a wimp for wanting you wife's attention. You are a loving husband who takes it to heart when things suddenly change. That is understandable and nothing to be ashamed of. Next time you find somethign odd in the laundry ask her where it came from. Smile
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jennimajor
replied March 2nd, 2011
Is there such a thing as underwear that has a heavier weight of spandex so it'll hold the lower tummy in? I don't want those granny panties either or those shapewaear that are ugly as sin.
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