Last year I had a nervous breakdown. I suffered from depression, couldn't work, was put on all kinds of psychotic medications, harming myself, memory loss, anxiety, fatigue and insomnia at night with mood swings. I am beginning to feel better and have this new excitment for life. I have been doing yoga, trying to lose weight but still can't sleep. I still get my mentstraul cycle each month but only for a day or so and sometimes it is very light. I am 44 years old. I have had horrible pain throughout my body. Psychiatrist diagnosed me with Borderline Personality Disorder but I am considered a very pleasant person and get along with others. I am beginning to wonder if all of this is due to an early menopause. My sister started early too but didn't have the severe symptoms I have had this past year. My question is..has anyone else gone through these severe symptoms when starting menopause?
Let me add that I have had a change in my body temperature. I used to be cold all of the time and now I am always hot. In fact, I live in South Florida and can't stand being out in the sun too long. I itch like crazy and can no longer use any shower products that have perfume in it. This has really been a difficult year for me and I would like to know if what I have been experiencing isn't mental illness but actually menapause. I am going to make an appointment with the GYN tomorrow to get some answers. I'm really hoping this is the answer. I would love for that red monster to stop so I can enjoy my life and my family. I am also very sensitive, moreso than I used to be. I really hope this is all hormonal.
This is all a sign you are having hormonal changes. Be gentle with yourself, take life a little easier. A previous writer said she noticed an improvement with yoga, I'm not surprised. You need to rest and meditate while your body is going through this change. Listen to healthy living to go audio from Bellaruth Naparstek at least once a day. I see this post was over 3 years ago, the worst of the menopause symptoms should have passed by now.
Thank you! I did make an appt. with my gyn for next Friday and hoping to get some answers. I was also hoping that some of the readers might have been experiencing or experienced some of what I went through during premenopause or menopause. I guess I'm hoping that it's hormonal and not mental.
There are many side effects of menopause. You are describing alot of them. My guess would be that you are indeed starting the change. It's so easy for some women, and harder for others. Itching skin, hair loss, mood swings, insomnia, depression, dryness, hot flashes, are all signs that menopause had begun. I was 35 when I started, and got my last "visit from mother nature" when I hit 45. I sailed through and was so happy to see it go! Your doctor can run tests to check all this for you. Nothing to fret about, there are meds for any problems you experience if you need them. I didn't, and I highly don't recommend hormone replacement, due to the connection they are finding with breast cancer. Talk to your doctor. This could end up being the best time of your life once the side effects let up! Of course, there is always the chance it is not the change, but it sure sounds like you are starting! Good luck!
Thanks to both of you for replying! I really feel it is hormonal and not some personality disorder. Psychiatrists are so quick to place a label and prescribing drugs without checking to see if something medically or hormonal is going on.
hi wendyrs..you certainly sound menopausal and i thought at start of mine i was going crazy...i cried and flew off the handle blamed my morphine and was convinced it stopped my periods..it was several months down the line that i realised i needed this investigated at 48 yrs old..
off i went to my doctor and said " i think im going bonkers and my meds have stopped my period" then the tears started again..
he re-assured me that a simple blood test would confirm i was menopause and when results came back he confirmed i was...
I don,t miss them but the hot flashes are something else but i cope..no more tender breasts, period pain, my only downside is hair thinning but so many good products to overcome that..
im enjoying this new lease of life and you shall too..our hormones are all over the place with change honey but, my doc says the hot flashes are good sign i shall sail through..some women who don,t would give anything to have one..
you.ll be fine and keep up great work on your posts..
I was sick with the flu and missed my appt. with the GYN. I'm only 44 but my sister started early too. The hot flashes have been really noticable since I've always been cold all the time in a/c but now I can't seem to get enough cool air. I wake up in the morning or middle of the night (when I do sleep) with my lower body feeling like it's on fire. However, I do still get my period but for many years only for a day or so. I think I'm rather lucky for that. I have no desire to have more babies and my youngest is off to college next year so I'm really looking forward to it going away SOON! I'm going to reschedule my doctor appt. tomorrow and have him give me the test. I've been taking Lexapro (anti-depressant) for years and it really helps with my moods. I don't think pre-menopause is the answer to all that's happened to me this past year because I do have a diagnosis of BPD but who knows. Personally I think I'm too pleasant of a person to have BPD. Everyone says they are screamers and I never scream or yell at anyone. Just trying to find the right answers. Thanks! I'm wondering if anyone else has ever experienced self-injury during menopause or pre-menopause. I've learned not to do this anymore but if you have I'd really like to hear from you.
Ok, so I went to the GYN today. He said I'm not pre-menopause but maybe something else is going on. My cervix was completely closed and it was a very painful exam. I have to go back next Friday for an ultrasound to see what is going on. Also, my Psychiatrist doesn't feel my BPD diagnosis has anything to do with menopause either. She says it's too extreme and I guess I agree. I'm not the typical BPD but I have a lot of the sensitivity symptoms. Anyway, I'm going to see a Chinese doctor who is naturopathic to help me get off my meds. I hope I can do this.
This is three years later than the original post in 2009, but I feel I need to respond as I too am now on an antidepressant and anti-anxiety medication and have been for about 3 months now. My story begins back on April 20th, 2012. I knew I was in peri-menopause because of the lack of normal periods and low progesterone level. I was having periods every 3 months or so, but feeling the usual hot flashes every once in awhile. No big deal. On April 20th, I went to an Urgent Care for a sore throat with blisters. He put me on Flonase and urged me to use a Medipot. I don't like Medipot's, so I should have just said no to the Flonase as I don't have allergies, my nose wasn't even blocked. I had a bloody nose from the Flonase second dose, but it subsided, so I thought I would be find to continue. I realize now I should have stopped and reported the reaction immediately. What happened was a series of menopause symptoms that I had never heard of. Acid Reflux, Burning Mouth Syndrome, vision changes, coughing and terrible loss of sleep as well as eye Floaters. I ended up with sleeping only 45 minutes a night and still going to work, with fits at night because I could not sleep. I went from doctor to doctor thinking it was an illness and none really listened to my symptoms except my Nurse Practitioner who works with a GYN. She put me on Bio-identical Progesterone, and also wanted to put me on antidepressants, but my fears of med's stopped me from taking them right away, so I ended up a real mess. I had unbelievable bizarre behavior, horrible mood swings and loss of touch with the world. I was in crisis and had to seek professional help. Now that I am on antidepressants still & anti-anxitey meds, I hope to get off of them eventually, especially because some can be addictive. My thoughts are that our GYN's should warn us early of these scary and weird symptoms that we can have with menopause so that we seek help earlier. It's my belief that the Flonase increased my menopause symptoms or the steroids in the Flonase caused a negative reaction in my body and made them worse. I have never taken a pill in my life at age 54 except for a pain reliever or over the counter PMS pill on occasion. Now, I am on 3 to 4 meds a day. Medications that I swore I would never take. I was diagnosed with a Major Depressive Disorder. I had never been like that before in my whole life and in 2 to 3 months time, I lost my mind. I guess what I am saying is to let your doctor know as soon as the symptoms show up, take the time to really talk with your GYN and let them know everything and take as little medications as you can. I hope to feel better someday, I am still struggling with happiness and hope for each day. I just got back to work as I was on medical leave and I am doing okay, but want to get better. I lost a lot this spring/summer. My happiness, my outlook on life, my healthy body, my eyesight which get's worse all the time because I cannot wear my contact's because of dry eye (another menopause symptom) and just basically lost 'Me'. If I had know this was how my menopause would be, I would have taken the HRT's right away as most women I know have and they have happy, healthy and productive lives. Sometimes the benefits outweigh the risks. So, Wendyrs, I hope this day finds you much better and in peace, happiness and back to your normal life. Those are my goals. May God Bless!
Katieleen, I am sorry to hear you have been suffering these illnesses and conditions.
My only advice is to be gentle with yourself, try the holistic approach, drink lots of water. It's amazing how taking omega fish oils or flax seed oil can help with your hormones and mood. Maca is another health supplement I'd recommend. I have a wonderful homeopath who recommends one or two things, and it targets whatever problems I'm having. As you are in your 50s, let's hope the worst is now over with the menopause.
One of the most important things which has helped me keep my sanity with the ever changing nature of this menopause, is my new friend. She is very optimistic, tries new things, sort of brings me along with her. I am almost 20 years younger than her, but she gives me the kick in the butt to get up and try things. It gives me courage to get through all this, and I can see that there are better times ahead, women in their 60s can have a happy, fulfilling life. Recently she has motivated me to try some things I would not have felt I'd the energy for, table tennis, using her running machine, going to charismatic prayer meetings (and a tea leaf reader). This activity keeps you going, takes your mind off your problems, a friend in need is a friend indeed. She lets me talk a bit about my problems, but then we have to do something. I feel she has helped me more than any doctors, medication, counselors could have.
Do try Health Journeys Living to Go Audio, from Belaruth Naparstek, it is very calming and will help you sleep and relax. Also, when I was very tense this music helped.
Don't worry about reading the text just lie back and listen to the wonderful music for a few minutes.
I hope and pray you feel better soon, I pray you are surrounded by good friends and this burden will lighten.
I have experienced the same symptoms. Most days, I just want to curl up in a ball and not see or talk to anyone. It's terrible. I am 46 years old...and have not had a period for over a year. I had been experiencing pain and anxiety for years prior (since I was about 40), and told my doctor that I thought I was experiencing perimenopause (sp), she kept insisting that I was "TOO YOUNG".
Now, my symptoms are even worse, and when I tell her (my doctor), she makes me feel like I'm crazy. I only realized that I'm not crazy when I researched online, and found a lot of women who have experienced these symptoms too. It's terrible, and I cannot imagine having to deal with this for much longer.
I want to go to a hormone specialist....but, I don't have health insurance, and cannot afford it right now. I don't know what to do.
I used to be very energetic...but, now I don't want to do anything. I have to force myself to get up and do things. I'm SO moody, and irritable...I miss the days of being happy, and having the energy to do things that I used to love doing.
It's lonely...as no one in my life understands. I think they think that I'm just being a "B". But, I can't help it. Things that didn't bother me in the past, now aggravate the living "you know what" out of me.
I see that this post was years ago...and I hope that you got answers and help. I understand how you are feeling, and it's miserable...you feel helpless.
hi. I have no idea what is going on either and need advice as I am getting laughed out the doctors offices being only 35!!! I too have been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder BPD ... i am on mood stabilisers and anti depressing .. in fairness i am allowed off those slowly now. I started getting hot flushes terribly, the doc just made my pill from 20mg of oestrogen to 30mg and they seemed to slackened off. I am more impatient and snappy than sensitive bug can tearful. the cramps that I now get are terrible and my flow is dark with clots. headaches, dizziness for no reason, dryness, discharge changes all the time, so tired, aching everywhere. Now I was tested for politic ovaries along time ago and they insisted my hormone levels were fine. What can I do? Am I changing? My Nan was 41 when her periods stopped!