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could my boyfriend hit me one day?

Hi Everyone,

ive been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 5 months. just yesterday my mum told me that she doesnt want me to be with him and i have been feeling like this anyway. he is very jealous and controls me in different ways. a couple times when we have had a fight and i want to walk away he grabs me really hard and sometimes hurts me. i really LOVE him! i cant imagine being without him. could he hit me one day or is there still hope for him? can he change?
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replied January 21st, 2011
I understand what you're going through, trust my word on this. My boyfriend would not allow me to leave PERIOD when he wanted to discuss things, and he absolutely disgusted abusive men. But he would grab me and hold me back, yank me away, pull me. Just yesterday he got seriously physical and never in my life would I have imagined he would get this bad.

There is a possibility that your boyfriend could some day hit you. I know you love him, but you need to seriously think about what you could be getting into and sit down with your boyfriend and discuss things. If he ignores you and brushes it off, he's not serious about the relationship, and I think you should cut it off before it's too late.

This is coming from someone who JUST went through all this, and a fellow girl. I'm 19.
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replied February 8th, 2011
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Yes most likely he will, because it happened to me too. It started off with yanking and pulling back, shaking my arms and shoulders hard, and gripping onto my wrists really really hard even leaving bruises whenever i wanted to walk off... and then it happened again and again and eventually became a very abusive relationship.

He is trying to control you and if you let him, eventually he will. Im 17, and have been going through this for pretty much the whole time i was 16... so talk to him and make sure he does not do it again.
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replied June 7th, 2011
I understand what you are going threw 100%

When me and my boyfriend get into arguments, i just want to go for a walk to clear my mind or just go out for awhile, he will grab me and throw me around... becuase he wants to deal with it right there... hes hit me 3 seperate times, yet promises to never do it againg, honestly even the slightest hint og physical contact even if its throwing around can turn much more violent, if i were you and wanted to leave, wait untill your home alone, pack your things and go, thats the only way.
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replied July 21st, 2012
I know this is late, but if you are still in this relationship get out. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a very long time, and I'm still going through this. It started off with some very hurtful words, and now I'm having bruises all over me. I've been called a b****, slut, prostitute, piece of s*** mother f*****, stupid, idiot, !**@!, and anything else you could possibly think of. I've also been told to eat s*** and die. This was all said within months of dating. I forgave him, like and idiot, and now I can't get away from him. Just today I was thrown around and bruised up like I was a punching bag because I would not give him his car keys. He called me a prostitute and grabbed me so hard I had bruises immediately after he did it. I love him and I've been with him forever, but I would wish this on anyone. He's an abusive drug addict that will never change, and he would kill me if I ever left him. Please don't let this happen to none of you.
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