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Hey everyone, I need help!

Background info:
1. My cycles usually lasts for 31 days
2. Last period started on may 30 and ended on June 5
3. From my observation, my boyfriend has precum long before his orgasm

So, yesterday (june13, day 15 of my cycle) my boyfriend and I were fooling around and then I gave him a blowjob and he came. He wiped the semen off and after I guess around 15-20 minutes later, I gave him a blowjob again. There was not as much (or even no) precum coming out this time than during the first blowjob.. After like 10 mins of the blowjob, my boyfriend put his penis inside my vagina and it went "inside and out" 3-4 times.. He pulled out a minute before his orgasm and there was no fluid on his penis when he pulled out. He said he didn't have precum inside me. I don't know whether boys can feel the precum coming.. But this really scares me since it's near my ovulation. Today my CM is sticky and thick, I think I've not yet ovulated.

Please I need help Sad and I hope I don't get judged. I know I should've had protection but it was so sudden and recently I felt like I lack love and care from my parents:( and that's why I wanted it Sad please help me!
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replied June 14th, 2012
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Just to make this clear, and please do not view this as judgement. I do not know you, and I have no wish to judge you. If you are adult enough to have sex, you are adult enough to take responsibility for your own acts. I would like nothing more than for you to realize that, and take responsibility for your own health and well being, and to protect your plans for the future from unforeseen problems like a baby.

Sex at your age is not love and care. It is pure lust, hormones and being in love. It is temporary at most. You might not think so now, but in 20 years time you will look back on this and know it to be the truth. Sucking on your boyfriends penis is not love and care. Do not blame your parents or anything else, you made the decision.

So to get back to your issue:

Pre-cum does not shoot out, and cannot be controlled by a man. It comes for the Cowper's glands, totally separated from ejaculation and semen. If you look at his penis head and it is wet, it is from pre-cum. If that did not happen, penetration will be difficult and painful. He cannot feel it, and he cannot control it. When he gets aroused, it starts to ooze out. It's got nothing to do with how close he is to ejaculating.

The danger of pre-cum is its ability to push out left over semen and sperm from his previous ejaculations, especially since he ejaculated twice just minutes before.

Your risk should be low, but it is not totally zero. The best will be to get emergency contraceptives like Plan B or Ella. It can only be sold over the counter to a woman or man at least 17 years old.

And please have the discussion with your boyfriend (and all future boyfriends) about condoms, and what you will allow and what not. He needs to know, no condom, no intercourse.

Take care!
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