Hi. My girlfriend of 10 months will periodically bring to my attention that someday I wont have a job because I work with my father in his business and thinks he's just going to shoosh me out into the street when he retires or whatever. I have no idea where she gets this from. Apparently she had a bad experience with an ex boyfriend who told her he worked with his father and come to find out did nothing. She says that I don't "get a paycheck" so it makes her think that I don't work. When your self employed or are involved in a family runned business it's different but I pay my bills, pay taxes and have spending sprees and have fun and live life like anyone else. Little things will trigger that worry of hers.. i.e.: my brother made a comment last night that because my step grandfather is in the hospital that my father will be at the hospital with my step mom and because he's not around I don't have to work today.. wink wink... It's a joke!! Just like the saying "when the boss is away, the workers or play".. or something like that. Well she didn't get it and took it completely literal and we fought. My father is 61 and will always have a hand in the business even when he offically retires. She seems insecure about the fact that not only that this is my career path but that it is and will a succesful one and will too take into my retirement someday and maybe allow me to bring my son into it someday if he chooses to. Amongst other things the bottom line is that she is a "worry wart". I love her a lot but think that her constant worry may affect our relationship down the road. I just recently moved in with her and generally when shes not worrying about things we are pretty darn happy. Other than a little argument now and then we get along pretty good. What can I do to help her in all of this without totally pointing a finger at her and saying that the reasons why we fight are all your fault? HELP!!! Thanks!

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