Constant fear of death

All I can say is i am very similar. you are not alone in that. When i have xanax it tends to help. Or i just drink a glass of wine. I honestly have not figured out a way to deal with it without something like that though. I know it is driving my husband nuts. This is the way i have been since birth though.

I have the very same feelings everyday, wish I knew what to do about it...its hard to enjoy life and children like this

It's very common to obsess over death and what can happen.

There are a few methods to free yourself of your anxieties; they are kind of simple-looking, but you'd be surprised how effective they are.

One way is through emotional freedom techniques. Just Google it and you'll find all sorts of information about how to do it for free. You may find results immediately.

The other way is through meditation. It can be transcendental meditation, primordial sound meditation, or any of the various other meditations that quiet your mind and teach you to focus on present awareness. That can break your mind's habit of obsessing over the future.

Deepak Chopra's 7 Spiritual Laws is probably available for free at your library; it's not religious, it just talks about how to look at you and your connection to the universe. It may help you to let go. I'm not a doctor and I'm not claiming to know what I'm talking about... but it seems like you're trying to control something that can't be controlled. Sure, you can take steps to be healthy and improve your quality of life. But trying to control the future is like trying to control the weather. It's easier said than done, but one of the keys to inner peace and joy is to surrender to the universe and let go of the desire to control things. I'm sure the Dalai Lama can say it much better than I can, so you might want to check out some of his books or lectures. Once you let go of trying to control the future, you will feel free to enjoy the present moment, and stop worrying about death.
Good luck!

For me all the anxiety and panic started around my 20th birthday. I've tried deep breathing and trying to keep my mind focused on the breathing rather than letting my mind wander. The therapist I've been seeing helps, but it's like a completely different mindset when I'm panicking. The meds I've been trying seem to make things worse. I'm currently coming off of Paxil. I've felt awful the last few days. Migraines on and off, disoriented, nauseous, just horrible feeling in general.

I'm no psychologist, but you might want to allow your mind to wander, that is, instead of trying to take your mind off the anxiety, talk to yourself, journal, etc. and figure out what thoughts are stimulating the anxiety. Who knows, your mind may be trying to send you a message and if you ignore it it will be persistent and keep sending it to you. The fight or flight response, the increased heartbeat and panicky feeling, is a product of millions of years of evolution; it used to be a survival technique, now it doesn't really serve us in most situations. But it's rising up again because of certain thoughts you're having, many of which might begin with "what if...?" So, if I were you, I would consider actually focusing on the panic attack itself, asking yourself what thoughts are creating it, and then you can challenge those thoughts and outsmart the automatic fight or flight response. Just a thought. Good luck!