well i think that if you both want to sleep with other people then thats your answer. thats ok to though. Like you said you are eachothers 1st and have been together for awhile. If you both want and need the same things then do it. At least your open about it and theres no cheating involved. And no I personally dont think being w/a man or a woman would be different.

You still would be with someone else.

Have a deeper talk about this soon. If you are both meant to go different directions done let the fighting destroy the friendship that you already have. Its always best to try and prevent further pain and damage. Especially since you both know you want other people. Personally if you keep going the way your going it could get nasty

I guess I didn't know that it is normal to be fighting after you have been dating for a while....I would think if you are around each other and find fault, that you both are not meant for each other....

I question if a bi-sexual woman would be content with a straight man....This alone could cause disaster....I would say part and both go your own way....I can't see why you are hurt that he would want to sleep with another woman....He probably can feel the hesitancy on your part when you make love....A woman has to be able to give all of herself to a man....When your mind is somewhere else a man can feel it....It's really not a secret....

Don't tie yourself down.....Live and have fun...Find out your sexual preferance and accept it whatever it may be.....We are all different and that is not bad, it is good...

Good luck,
Caroline

sex with another person is sex with another person same gender or not. Talking with your partner...Kudos. Still, understand that regardless of your choice to be with another woman as opposed to another man...its still not your partner. Would you feel differently if he admitted he wanted to have sex with another man? If so, why is it different if its you stepping outside your relationship and having sex with another female? If you have both agreed to go ahead and have sex with other people please understand that your stepping on a potential land mine that could blow your relationship away but know that you agreed to sex with someone else regardless. A choice you made with him even if he decides to sleep with another woman. The gender is irrelevant. I personally think it has way more to do with growing into your sexual self/awareness and wanting to explore options. A bi-sexual woman can be perfectly content with a straight man btw.

Fighting i feel is healthy in a relationship.
My boyfriend and i have a fight once in a while, and it gets out the frustration we are feeling towards each other, and doesn't keep things bottled up. And we talk openly about things that we might not like that much about each other.
Talking about things is healthy to do, so when a fight does occur, you aren't bringing up old subjects that are in the past.
You should talk about the things you feel are small but still irritating, and by doing this, it could help in the future for them not to be repeated and you both could learn from these things too.
Maybe if you two talk about how you both feel and get out what you both do that bugs you, it could help you two not fight as often.

Your both each others first, and im sure dispite the fights and all you both love each other, but want to have sex with different people..maybe your sex life needs to be spiced up a little more, and that is why you both feel the need to have sex with different people.
Or maybe the whole relationship has become a little dull because you two have been together for so long, but that does not mean it should be ended now, and that you two should see other people, you just need to livin things up a little.
At chapters there are alot of little books on sex positions, how to spice up your relationship and love life, you just might need to add a little hot sauce to your relationship right now.
I dont know how you feel exactally, because i am content with my relationship, but i do know how it feels when it has hit a boring spell. There are ways to make your relationship feel new and fresh.
I would not jump into having sex with other people be it people of the same or opposite sex, even if you condone it on both parts..it just doesnt seem right if you are in a relationship which even though you are not in a married one, you both pretty much agree to be faithful to one another..

i known a married women who said she regrets telling her husband she was bisexual. i can imagine why. he probably looks at other women and justify.

i dealt with a few bisexual friends and they said if your not in a strong relationship with your boyfriend you could loose them.
reasons you have to think about is

once you sleep with someone its easy to sleep with them again.
you b/f might think the other girl is hotter, and her xxx is better, and desire her more.
you could be on opening a can of worms.