Sometime when a girl has been in a relationship for a long time its not that they just wake up one day and dont love you anymore, this is a process over a long time, Im sure she still cares deeply about you, but perhaps you are not "the one" for her, Dont be too upset im sure everything will work out soon enough for you.

but i dont understand how she can love me so much and then suddenly take interest in another guy. it breaks my heart, im always thinking about us together, always dream about us together and always hope for us to be together. i dont know what to do, should i try and get her back? or should i try to just completely shut her out of my life to get over her or should i try someone else? so confused

First of all you are hurting anyone can see that, You need to look after number 1 for now, I would not advice you to go looking for another girl this could just confuse you more.
Spend some time with friends, enjoying yourself Im not saying forget about her, but look after yourself and then think about getting into another relationship.
She made the choice to break up with you so i guess the last thing she would want is for you to go begging to get back with you. Just leave her to get on with this other guy, If she really loved you would she of treated you like this? You need to ask yourself the question. If she really loved you like she said would she really honestly treat you like this, Personally when i say to my hubby i love you i mean it, and that means i would do anything for him. But it has to be a two way thing in a relationship, its one thing to love but you have to be loved to !

yeh, well she used to be like that, at one point i thought she loved me more than i loved her but sadly i can see that is no longer the case. we broke up about a month ago and all i have been doing is hanging out with my mates just having a good time. when would u suggest would be a good time to go out looking for another girl? because i really have no idea with this sort of stuff, never felt like this before.

I don't think you should go looking for another girl, Have faith within yourself and let the girl come to find you, believe me it will happen it happened to me when i wasn't expecting to meet my partner.
Just be patent and everything will fall into place,

but it doesn't really work like that does it?, like your a girl so the guys come to you. girls dont really approach guys, therefore for me to get a new partner i would have to find her as opposed to her finding me......right? i dont know if i can go on much longer doing what iv been doing living the single life, its s***, i need a girlfriend haha.

Yeah i understand what your saying, But do you think you are mentally ready for another relationship?
If the answer is yes then of course go for it. But if not perhaps talking to a friend family member about how your feeling might help you come to terms with this girl hurting you.

i feel as though i need a relationship, im not sure if its because i want to get over her or because i actually want a relationship just so i can have someone close, i think it is even both. of course i wouldn't go out with a girl just to get over my ex cos that is just unfair, i would make sure i like her etc. thanks so much for your help by the way

No problem, Glad to help Just make sure you are comfortable with yourself before you try to get comfortable with someone else.

If you give a girl even the tinest reason to not love you anymore, expecially if its been a long relationship, it can happen. I think somewhere deep inside her she does still have feelings for you. I don't care what no one says, if you truely love some one you just can't fall completely out of love with them! Hope I was some help! Good luck!

I suggest that you give yourself some time to get over her, spend some time on yourself and give yourself some time to work out how you feel. It's natural and understandable for you to be feeling hurt and upset right now, give yourself some time, but if you are SURE you are ready for another relationship then go for it.

My advice is to try and avoid going out with people on the rebound, sometimes it does help you get over the person you have just lost, and you may find someone really special, but sometimes it can really hurt both of you.

I understand that you hate being single (I hate being single too, especially when everyone around me is in a relationship!) but try going out with your friends and enjoy being free and single. Don't go out looking for someone, but be open to the possibility that you might find someone, quite often people find someone really special when they aren't even looking!

Did she explain WHY she is feeling this way and just want you to be friends? Are you sure she actually has feelings for another guy? Or do you just think it is a possibility?
My thoughts are that if she really did love you, she would have explained exactly what had happened to make her feel this way.