im sorry if i seem harsh marie,its just that this girls trying for a baby started at 14 years old and it seems to me that your only seeing the good times when you think of being a mother and yes it is exciting its the best thing i ever did but there were extremelly hard times too and by encouraging young girls to take on this huge responsibility especially with statements like the one above it seems clear to me that you dont yet know the hard journey you are now on,if you still feel the same when you have had your baby for 6 months then fine say things like you did above but you really need to understand the huge journey your on in a few months you wont even remember who you are now, all you will think about is your son/daughter.Being a parent brings huge joy but your life as you know it now will be gone and if you realise this then shouldnt you make sure the other girls your encouraging know this before you tell to go for it and its a great idea?.This all said i do feel my above post was too harsh and i appologise for the manner in which i wrote it.

yeah it was sarcasm. lol. im a smart elleck.

I know it will be hard, but these people that write her giving her critisim, arent really making her decision any easier. If they in fact think she acts like a teenager, then they would know not to treat her like that, since it is typical for teenagers to rebel. I think that If they really want to help her, they will just give her advice, instead of trying to control her, because ite pretty obvious most teenagers do the exact opposite of what adults say. Im not trying to be a smart a** just to be one. Im just trying to make you realize, that guidance is best for teens, not telling them how wrong they are.

and I have already experienced the long hours awake at night, plus waking up in the morning to go to school. I had extremely neglectful parents who put every ounce of responsibility on me. My brother shared a room with me, had to sleep in my bed because my dad blew his money buying things for himself. He didnt care about any of us. Every parent is going to have a rough time, go through stress, lack of sleep, money issues, unpaid bills. Ive seen all of this from experience. Maybe people think that I seen it and should know not to put myself through it. But everyone lives the way they want. Experience things that make them do other things. I want children so early because I know how to take care of them, and Im not to concerned about the change because Ive been around it for so long, im already used to it. Plus the fact that both my parents are sick, my fiances parents are getting old, I wanted them to have grandchildren! They are all so happy to hear that I am pregnant. Im not being selfish. I am doing what I think is best, and Im not worried about the affect it will have on me and my social life. I have 2 best friends who will be here for me no matter what, and have a very supportive family, who is happy with the choice I have made, and understand why I made it.

oh ok so what your saying is if you have a daughter and she comes home at 14 and tells you shes wants to have a baby then your gonna be ok with that because you know shes gonna do it anyway????.You should really think about this issue deeper marie.Although i do agree teenagers do rebel but im still going to tell them how hard life will be not encourage them like you!

No, as a parent I would not approve, but by telling a teenager she is NOT going to do something, it will make her want to do it more! I would have my child on birthcontrol if it was ever an issue.

and im not talking about your decision im talking about you thinking its just fine for 14 year old girls to go around getting pregnant and you being quite happy to encourage them

you cant force it down her throat though can you???

Im sure my parents would have had me on it, but I have been from home to home recently because of neglect and what-not. But things happen, and they happen for a reason. I believe I became pregnant because the people that are close to me, could possibly pass away and they want to have grandchildren before that time. Whatever it may be, it happened. and I am happy with whatever life throws at me.

No, there are shots that I can have her do every three months. It doesnt really matter at this point. My child is not even born yet. emphasis on My Child. No need for anyone to worry about how I choose to raise her, or him.

what im basicly saying to you is if it was your 14 year old daughter posting on this site would you want other young girls encouraging her and giving her tips on concieving quicker this is all i will say on this matter,You made your choice but i really think you shouldnt be encouaging these other young girls until youve had your baby for a few months this is of course your choice and non of my buisiness and i do happen to agree with you on the teenagers rebeling but that doesnt mean that people should encourage them.I really dont want to get into a big arguement on this i have made my point i just wanted you to see it from another prospective good luck with everything and im sorry if ive upset you,it wasnt my intension its just im very passionate about this subject

i have no concern about how you choose to raise your child.I was merely trying to get you to see this issue from a personal prospective and yes if you had a daughter she could have shots but wouldnt she need to be ok with that? because she would in my country and if she came home telling you she wanted a baby she would clearly would refuse any contraceptive.I really cannnot understand why you keep thinking im talking about your pregnancy here.I am talking about this paticular poster and you encouraging them why do you keep defending your decision to have a baby here?I am not talking about you.

Im just trying to give my personal thought on it. She is no longer 14 years old. Its up to her grandparents to decide whether or not she uses contraceptive or not. They apparently dont mind. They are signing for her to get married. Im not sure why they didnt try to stop her, but cant really do anything about it. Its now up to her grandparents to figure out what to do. Maybe they see there is no point in stopping her, since a teeen will do as she wishes.

I seriously doubt that, she probably didnt tell them for the first year or two.No responsible parent/carer would allow it.Plus it was illegal for her to have sex at 14 so if her grandparents consented to her getting pregnant at that age they would have been breaking the law so i really think its unlikely they knew at first

Yeah, they probably didnt. I have no idea. But I have no idea if they approve of it now or not. I know when my dad found out that I was sexually active, he was furious. But mine was protected and he knew that, and he just gave me the talk, and went on knowing that I was sexually active. Not sure why he didnt suggest birth control

if you didnt want to help you shouldnt have posted in this thread. i've looked at loads of sites for help with conciving and it all seems to point at a helathy diet and lifestlye and having intercourse around the time of ovulation. i also read about laying down with yoru knees bent up for about 20 mins after teh intercourse to help teh sperm travel! let me know how its going or what tips you've heard im also trying to concive!

Yeah. i heard that laying on your back with legs up for about 10-15 minutes helps the sperm travel.

Ohh but i did want to help,i wanted to help stop young girls from having babys they are just not ready for and in a few years you will want to too,you will be here telling these young girls how hard it was for you trying your best to make them see its better for them to wait.

I'm pretty sure this forum is for supporting teens who find themselves in a rough situation, not teens who want to get pregnant at a young age. No one should be supporting teens actively trying to get pregnant.

Im sure no one supports it. But when a teen does get in this situation, I think that making them feel like crap about it, just makes them mad. Like I said, teens will rebel. The best thing to do in my opinion, is to not tell her shes wrong, but make her know that there are other options.