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Co-worker want to hook me up with his cousin Posted: 04-16-08 23:08pm
I got a co-worker of mine, whos a pretty
cool guy. He's really taken a liking to
me. We were petty good buddies, I gues
you can say.
He recently got his cousin a job as a
cashier at our work. And he really,
really want me too hook up with his
cousin. However, his cousin is 16 and I'm
18. I find this age gap very wrong, like
wrong that I could get in trouble for it.
He really wants me to hook up with her
cause I pretty much have my head on
straight. Going to college for building
renovation, plan to start my own company
in the future, poilte, a real delite to be
around, etc..
Anyways I wont hook up with her, cause I
don't like the age gap.
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coliejo
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Posted: 04-16-08 23:12pm
if you dont want to hook up with her then
dont. it is your choice. and by "hook up"
do you mean date or just have sex with
her. the age and legal teoubles only come
if you have sex with someone younger,
going on a date has no harm when it comes
to legal matters.
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greekjohn
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Posted: 04-16-08 23:21pm
hook up i mean date, and then he wants the
relationship to turn out to a
boyfriend-girlfriend thing
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coliejo
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Posted: 04-17-08 11:54am
well if you dont want to, i wouldn't do
it. Besides, if you do end up dating and
broke up, wouldnt things be weird between
you and your friend.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 04-17-08 13:39pm
coliejo
wrote:
if you dont want to hook up
with her then dont. it is your choice. and
by "hook up" do you mean date or just have
sex with her. the age and legal teoubles
only come if you have sex with someone
younger, going on a date has no harm when
it comes to legal
matters.
Not in all cases do you
get into trouble for havnig sex with
someone younger than you. In some statesd
you can be 16 others 17 and the counter
partner may be an adult. However since
this is not the case. . .
I don't see anything wrong with dating
someone 2 years younger than you. It might
sound bad to you right now but 2 years is
nothing. My boyfriend is actually 3 years
younger than I am and I'm 23. It's pretty
much whatever your comfortable with. Don't
let someone push you into a relationship
because it's what they want either.
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coliejo
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Posted: 04-17-08 13:56pm
yeah my boyfriend is 2 and a half years
older than me and we started dating when i
was 14, so if age is the only thing
stopping you from dating her, I wouldnt
worry too much about it
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greekjohn
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Posted: 04-17-08 21:09pm
If I were to date her and brake up with
her, I would think things would be strange
between us. I'm going to be a General
Contractor he wants to be a Plumber and
wants to work together. Things would be
strange, work wise as well, if we were to
partner up.
I don't really see anything wrong with
dating someone younger and/or older then
you. My cousin and her husband have 2
years difference, she is older then him.
But its different when I am 18 and she has
just turned 16. I'm born 1989 and she is
born 1992.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 04-18-08 06:15am
It's only because she's 16 and like I
said, it sounds bad but really in a few
years you wont think that way anymore. Let
me tell you, when I was 16 I was dating a
21 year old. . . Probably not the best of
things I did, lol but he had no problems
with it. What you really need to be
looking at is how well the two of you get
along or click. She may be 16 but lots of
girls are way more mature than their age.
Maybe after talking to her it wont bother
you about how old she is. Do you (and the
girl) work together directly? Or just with
your friend? If you do get together with
her I would tell your friend that anything
that happens between you and the girl is
your own business and you do not want it
affecting your relationship with him in
anyway. Just talk to him and tell him how
you feel pretty much.
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greekjohn
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Posted: 04-18-08 22:51pm
~*~Melissa~*~
wrote:
It's only because she's 16
and like I said, it sounds bad but really
in a few years you wont think that way
anymore.
In a few years, yeah I wont think that way
because it wont really be bad. But when
you think of it 16 is still a kid, 18 is
an adult. Say we were to hook up, and we
are still going out in like two years.
Whats would she say to her friends, yeah
my boyfriend is 20 almost 21 and hes a
general contractor, making it big in
construction. And she is still 17 not 18.
~*~Melissa~*~
wrote:
Let me tell you, when I was
16 I was dating a 21 year old. . .
Probably not the best of things I did, lol
but he had no problems with it.
My buddie did that for a few months when
he was 16. She was actually dating a 22
year old. She was pretty laid back, chill
and everything, really like him but used
him to get with his buddie who was 18.
When she got with his buddie, she ended up
getting pregnant and then getting married
within a few months.
~*~Melissa~*~
wrote:
Do you (and the girl) work
together directly? Or just with your
friend?
Somewhat. I work the floor as a sales
associate, she works as a cashier. So
when she pages, I'm usually the one who
answer the pages (in general)
Well I don't work directly wiith her
cousin either. He works merchendising
department, so they set up promotional
items but hes around the store all the
time, but we do work together.
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coliejo
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Posted: 04-19-08 00:45am
I am 18 right now and my bf is 21 and out
of school and working as a mechanic and
stuff, it is not weird at all for us. We
have been dating now for 4 years and even
when he was 18 and I was 15, I didnt think
too much of it. His mom thought the age
diffecterence was a little much but she
was ok with it.
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greekjohn
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Posted: 04-19-08 21:18pm
Yeah but is better now, since your 18.
Its looked upon different. The other
thing is shes pretty much the same as my
brother, he's turning 16 in July (the 2nd
to be exact), I think that would be kinda
strange as well.
Like you said your mom thought about the
age difference. What are her parents
(divorced) going to say?
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coliejo
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Posted: 04-20-08 10:21am
I dont know what her parents would say, it
depends on how they are. Some parents wont
care at all and others will think it is a
big deal. Two years really isnt too much
for parents to worry about, i wouldnt
think. Her being the same age as your
brother might be weird for me too. But
jyst remember that girls usually mature
faster than boys and a lot of women do
date older guys
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Posted: 04-20-08 10:25am
I don't think work relationships are the
way to go as it is, age differences aside.
If you two got together and it didn't
work out, it could put your job in an
awkward situation and it's more important
for you to keep your job.
The guy that you know who is so cool
doesn't seem so cool if he's pressuring
you to do something you don't want to do
or feel just uncomfortable about. Make
sure that if you do something, it's not
because you feel obligated to a third
party or because you have to do them a
favor.
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greekjohn
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Posted: 05-02-08 23:57pm
You see now I see why he wants me to date
her.
Two new guys started working at my work.
The white wanna b gangsters. Acting all
tought, they are not the best of ppl to be
hanging around with. And she is hanging
out with them. So I guess thats why.
Personally, I don't think work
relationships are the best just in case
something does happen and become all
strange between "a" and "b".
As for the age, its more like 3 years
differnce. Yes I am curently 18, but not
for much longer. In a few more months I
will be 19, and she just turned 16 in like
Febuary.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 05-05-08 11:46am
Well then I say don't do anything you
aren't comfortable with!
