I was diagnosed a few years ago with a blood-clotting disorder referred to as Factor Five Deficiency. Because of this, I can't be on any forms of birth control that use hormones (the Pill, depo-shot, implant, etc.) My doctor approved an IUD called Paragard last year, but at a recent gyno exam, they found my uterus was too small (haven't had children) to hold the IUD in the right spot in my uterus.
This doesn't leave me with many options. It also doesn't help that my boyfriend refuses to wear a condom. It will RUIN our relationship if I can't figure out a way to protect myself against an unwanted pregnancy using non-hormonal methods.
I recently bought the Today Sponge, but haven't had a chance to try it yet. Anyone have any experience with the TODAY SPONGE? Good, bad? I hear it's not as effective as most other forms of BC, but I don't know what else to do.
Any other non-hormonal options out there?! PLEASE HELP!
The possibility of getting pregnant on your period is a theoretical one, rather than a practical one. Women are not fertile for the 10 days before their menstruation and during menstruation. This is true if you have cycles that are 26 days long or longer. A few times in your ife you will also ovulate more than once in a cycle so you may get pregnant then. In general, if it will not be a crisis if you get pregnant, it is an acceptable risk.
You can try fertility awareness methods (FAM). Look at fertilityfriend (dot com). Do their free tutorials and training or find classes at your local Catholic church. It will require that you take some time to track your fertility. A good compromise is to use condoms and/or the sponge when you are fertile, and go bare the other times. There is also the diaphragm, but like the sponge, it is not 100% effective.
I do not understand why he is refusing to wear a condom? Preventing an unwanted pregnancy is surely as much his problem as it is yours. And as the carrier of the sperm, he can surely not put all the responsibility on you, especially with your medical history. There are polyurethane condoms available today that are very very thin. A bit of lube inside the condom will make it so that he will likely not even feel it.