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Q: Chronic stress , toxic environment
asked by: woundandawound on October 14th, 2008
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I'm living a nightmare and don't know what to do. There seems to be no resources for the mentally "injured" - only the mentally "ill". What do you do when it's not *you* who are insane, but the *conditions* in which you must live and work that are?

I once consulted a therapist about this, and she said to me, "You are reacting in a very sane way to very insane conditions." When I said, "That's great. Okay. So, what do I need to do to manage these conditions?" Her response: "The mind is not designed to withstand a chronic state of stress." Again, I was like, "Uhm.. okay.. I'm not paying you $100/hr that I don't have to reflect back onto me facts I'm already aware of. I'm paying you to formulate a solution and provide me with a practical course of action."

Needless to say, after exhausting mental health consults, medical health consults, business consults, and even a success coach, I find myself at my wit's end, and 2 years later, my conditions are worse than ever - so much so that I have no support systems anymore. Friends - even family - simply are unavailable for any problem, and people only come to me anymore with problems and demands. I have no relationships anymore, because friends and loved ones have either fallen away under the weight of their own toxic lives or I've had to cut off, because every attempt at communicating with me was a prelude to demands and toxic emotional dumping. Everywhere I turn, *everybody* seems to be bleeding out just as badly as I am, and there's no time, no compassion, and no capability, it seems, to even give either.

Conditions are now such that every facet of my life which is needed for survival has become toxic. Unfortunately, I don't earn enough money to carry health insurance anymore or to even pay for a consultation out-of-pocket if I wanted one, which, to be honest - I don't, because every therapist, physician, or consultant I've gone to in the past has had no solutions - only pills or what I call "form letter" posturing that in no way addresses the crux of the problem. It's as if the system knows that the machine is broken, but doesn't care to fix it, yet they'll push a pill on you that will invert your personality, rot your organs, and destroy your sex drive. What kind of f**ked up "medicine" is that??? On the flip side, I apparently make too much money to qualify for any assistance, and when I inquired about our state's health insurance assistance, I was told there's a 2-year waiting list. So, even if there was a medical or mental health solution to my toxic living and working conditions (which seems illogical and unlikely), I couldn't gain access to it anyway.

Yes, I have a chronic stress. Yes, I have developed debilitating mental and physical symptoms as a result, but I must underscore again - this is *not* an "illness". It is an "injury". I am seeking a solution that will enable me to (1) *heal* the "injury" and (2) meet the demands of living and working in the culture of the day, without self-destructing or allowing these intolerable circumstances to escalate to the point that I find myself dead as the result of heart attack, cancer, stroke or worse!

Any Einsteins out there feel up to challenge of tackling this? Or, should I just put my hopes in an asteroid hitting the earth sometime soon and putting this sick, sado-masochist animal called "man" out of its collective misery?

Peace (please).
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jennylh
replied on October 25th, 2008
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You are right in that we are currently living in a chronically stressed world. It seems like society is getting more stressed every day and there is no end in site. The most important thing you can do is to take care of yourself. If you take care of yourself by exercising and eating properly, your body will be able to recover from stress more easily. There are plenty of things you can do to help yourself and many of them are free.

I'd suggest that you start by taking at least 20 minutes per day to concentrate only on relaxation. Take a bath. Lay down with your feet up the wall. CLose your eyes. Meditate. Does that sounds like something you can do?
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biodrux
replied on November 4th, 2008
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Wound, I've already addressed your issue in the last post but let me say one more thing... You're the one who is creating your own stress. Not your family, not the economy, not the medical system. The longer you go on blaming everyone else for your failure to live up to your potential, the longer you give away your power to change.

Taking responsibility = taking power.

And, the longer you dwell on your frustration and failures, the more you reinforce the image of a failed frustrated artist into your subconscious. If an athlete focused on how much his muscles were burning and how dehydrated he felt, would he ever succeed?
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