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Q: Cheated on after 8 years
asked by: vigi44 on June 12th, 2008
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I was with my ex for almost 8 years. Last october on Halloween night, I found out he was seeing another girl behind my back the countless nights he'd go out with the 'boys' and leave me home alone...worried and wondering where he was. We had such a healthy relationship, but got rocky as we started the process of buying a house (his idea)...and he resorted to cheating because 1) fear of commitment and 2) my lack of giving him sexual attention. It was an opportunity in front of him and the attention he got was soo addicting, that it broke us.
I met someone since then that is someone that I've always dreamed of. Has all the traits I wanted my ex to have, my exact match. He's my clone, and our connection is like no other. But its different from the connection I had before with my ex...which still seems to be stronger. I'm having such a tough time letting go of my past...and I'm afraid it may really hurt the amazing opportunity I have with this wonderful man in front of me now.
I think about my ex every second of every day, and the guy i'm seeing now is hurt because his love for me isn't strong enough for me to let go of my last love Crying or Very sad .
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diamondsz
replied on June 12th, 2008
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Thats normal but You have to let go of the past, not only for yourself but for the new guy, how would you feel if this guy told you he still loved his ex?

The connection was stronger, what happens is we become so comfortable in a previous relationship (kind of like a drug) that we are afraid to try something new. We are afraid of this relationship hitting ship side and then its like what do you have after?

I met a guy who could match me but I caved in and went back to my ex only to have the same problems as before but now the other guy won't talk to me, A real love triangle!!!!!

Anyways the other guy is upset he really liked me and well I wouldnt go out with him cause I really wanted to try on my marriage but it was a recipe for disaster. If you can be comfortable with yourself or do what you really want to do it really helps but first you have to learn how to love yourself first.
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