To be perfectly honest with you, I don't think your boyfriend should stay with YOU. You have already proven to be a serial cheater, and those are the kind who always cheat. You can't have it both ways dear. You have a great guy, who YOU admit is great, but because there are a few issues that do not "align," you decided to check out another man... AGAIN? Do you think there aren't going to be little things in life that you don't like but have to go along with? What will you do when they crop up? Cheat for a third time? You need to be alone, and on your own, to think about what you are doing. You need to grow up. Cheating doesn't solve anything. Why can't you just level with your boyfriend about the things that bother you, instead of cheating? Are you afraid of hurting him by telling him of your concerns? Do you think he will hurt will any less when he finds out you are cheating? At least leave the man his dignity and self-respect...come clean, and suffer the consequences. Something tells me when yhe learns what you have done, you will be able to make a decision one way or the other about these two men. Just remember, the one you are cheating with has NO character. And neither, at this point, do you. The only one who does is your boyfriend. I hope he finds a girl that is worthy of him. Sorry to be so blunt, but you asked for advice, and now you need to face the truth.

if your sleeping with the second guy, you would have to stop. this can cause you to be even more confused. you have to tell him you feel guilty and you have to sort out your feelings.

in a relationship you have to constantly work on it. it may be exciting one year and dull the next. having two men in your face i m sure your constantly comparing and this is not fair.
we cant make that decision for you, but you have to clear your head and figure out what you want, you cant play both sides, you have to make your mind up.
my advice is, be sure of what man you want.
my ex broke up with me after five years together. now it's been two years after our separation and i m in a happy healthy relationship, and he cries to me on myspace about how horrible his girlfriend is treating him. my response to him was i dont care to hear it. it treated me bad because he wanted to be with this women, now he wants to cry to me about how horrible she is.lol

Conflicted,
You keep him as your best friend only and truly move on. No boy has ever been so nice to you; you give back the rings, and don't say you don't deserve them because you cheated. Otherwise he'll justify for you that you're good and you're right back to conflicted. This stuff happens all the time in life and people mess up, but can't make it exactly right again, either. Maybe no spark is there and you might have THAT YOUR WHOLE marriage, pulling at you to cheat again but hurting him worse later, and hurting your children badly. You'll ruin his life if you stay.

Go to open pastures, and your life will be really good, too, better, and you’ll become a wonderful wife. It's all contained in your post. You're awesome girl with a beautiful heart. You made a mistake. I promise you you're on your way to a very happy life with the normal bumps and bruises. Good luck, sweetie., Conflicted. You'll make it. So will he.

Think about what you are saying you greedy brat. I am not going to be nice about this and I hope that "your greener" grass dies quick. Your boyfriend should be told what you are doing and given the ability to walk away with his pride intact. Cheat once.... maybe confusion or a moment which you should have walked away from in the first place if you loved your boy friend. If he is strong enough or sees value in working it then you both might have a chance. Twice? You have no self respect for yourself or your man. As for the other guy you are messing with... if he knows you have someone and he helps service you, then chances are he has no soul or loyalty. In do time he will do it to you (bet on it) and perhaps give you something to live with that gives you more than just an itch. There is nothing right, justified or supported by cheating. It is just cruel and leaves the innocent party dealing with significant trauma. Could you live with the mental pictures of someone you loved in the sexual heat of cheating. I think not. You deserve to have him help himself to your best friend, sister, cousin and mother. Everyone that you trust.... perhaps that will help you feel the pain of what you are doing to him.