I don't even know if I have a problem, but
any feedback would be much appreciated.
When I'm at work I am a real characther -
I'm witty, funny, confident, silly and
cheeky (in a good way of course). I am
very popular and really well liked.
People even come upto me during the day
for what they call "their daily dose of
Adam to brighten up their day." People
also email me asking me to come over to
their desk and talk rubbish with them for
10 minutes to cheer them up!! For the
record I very rarely mix socially with my
colleagues.
But for some reason, and I really don't
know why - when I am not in work and
around family and friends I am a
completely different person. I seem to
lose my wit, sarcasm and confidence. I am
quiet, introverted, alot more serious and
probably come across as very boring and
hard to talk to.
If you asked my colleagues to sum me up in
a sentence and then did the same with my
family and friends, it would look like
their talking about two completely
different people.
What is wrong with me? Why can't I have
my 'work personality' outside the office?
Adam
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PenguinsRus
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Posted: 04-22-08 10:07am
It is most likely because you are
comfortable around your family and friends
and know that they will love you
regardless. You are probably going to
work and trying your best to make an
impression on them since you know its
important to your carreer. After a long,
hard day of trying to impress everyone,
you come home and are exhausted from
keeping up the personality and are able to
relax.
Either that, or its the other way around
where you feel stressed out at home and
its making you introverted while you feel
excited and comfortable at your job and
around new, refreshing people.
If you are worried about your personality
changes, you should go talk to your
doctor.
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CarolDiane
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Posted: 04-24-08 01:15am
PenguinsRus
wrote:
It is most likely because
you are comfortable around your family and
friends and know that they will love you
regardless. You are probably going to
work and trying your best to make an
impression on them since you know its
important to your carreer. After a long,
hard day of trying to impress everyone,
you come home and are exhausted from
keeping up the personality and are able to
relax.
Either that, or its the other way around
where you feel stressed out at home and
its making you introverted while you feel
excited and comfortable at your job and
around new, refreshing people.
If you are worried about your personality
changes, you should go talk to your
doctor.
I have to
agree 100% with PenguinsRus. It is very
hard trying to two different lives.
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eeyore46
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Posted: 04-24-08 01:32am
I thought I was reading a post I had
written. You are kind, compassionate,
thoughtful, considerate of other's
feelings, and treat people the way you
would like to be treated. Did you grow up
in a dysfunctional home? Has your family
ever acknowledged your wonderful
qualities? How old are you?
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antigone
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Posted: 04-24-08 23:50pm
Could it be possible that you feel
confident and accepted at work? You
receive a lot of positive feedback from
your co-workers. You give your co-workers
cheer and laughter. They respond with
"emotional hugs". This builds your esteem
and confidence so you respond in kind with
your wit and cheer. A symbiotic
relationship of sorts. The emotional
support, acceptance, encouragement, and
sense of belonging play a huge role in
behavior. This is what I see happening.
In my early 20's I had a job where I felt
valued, respected, needed, and accepted. I
felt very confident at work. At home I was
a different person. I know it was due to
the level of acceptance I felt and how
much support I received from my
co-workers.
I am not sure how you can bring your work
personality home with you. I think it
really has to do with the emotional
strokes you get at work and perhaps don't
get that same level of emotional support
with family and friends. Sometimes it is
easier to let it all hang out with people
we don't know well. With family and
friends you can have preconceived ideas of
how you are expected or supposed to act.
This inhibits your ability to show the
other sides of your personality to friends
and family.
I know that as I got older I feel more
confident in who I am and can now be
comfortable showing all sides of my
personality with my family and friends.
I don't know if this helps. You remind me
of myself a long time ago. Be assured that
the funny, witty, sarcastic person is all
you. You just need to feel confident and
let that persona come forth.
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