chance that i have HIV after all these years?

Hi Doctor,

thanks for this helpful forum,

in 1998 or 97 i have had unprotected sex with a female and it lasted about 10 mins in her vagina, i wasn't at this time puting risks infront, that's whay i wasn't protected

i didn't feel any symptoms after at all, just 4 or 3 years ago may be in 2008, i had swollen lymphs allover my body (Neck, upper part of legs near my pinus) in addition to rash allover my body...this lasted for 3 days and all is gone after, and till date i don't feel anything wrong

i am too much worried, and don't have any courage to do the test, the problem is that iam married since 13 years by now with a daughter 12 years old, my wife is feeling well and daughter too..no symptoms exept my daugher is often have a swollen lymph node in her neck when she catch cold.. or some times without cold.

guilt is killing me and i don't know what to do. is there a chance that i have HIV after all these years. i never had any relation exept my with my wife since 1998