donnsway,
Opioids have been used for millenia and have a very safe profile. When used properly, under the supervision of a physician, they are one of the best medicines for the treatment of chronic pain. The chances of addiction (which is different from physical dependency) is actually very small.
But, with the DEA/FDA's ridiculous ideas on their use, doctors are afraid to prescribe them. Doctors risk losing their licenses if they stray from what the DEA/FDA feel is "appropriate". With the "war of drugs", patients who have pain, are denied a chance of getting a medicine that would make their life so much better.
I'm sorry to say, that if the doctor won't even give you some 5mg hydrocodone (which does come without the acetaminophen), you may want to look for a physician who is a little more realistic in his/her prescribing ideals. There are a lot of pain management regimens for the treatment of pain after spine surgery. These include the use of several different types of medications, with or without the use of opioids. But, if other regimens do not keep a patient comfortable (not necessarily pain free, but comfortable) and productive, and opioids do provide this, then they should be used. They are not the work of the devil. They are excellent medicines and should be part of every doctors "black bag".
Hope you find someone who will treat your pain appropriately, whatever that entails. Good luck.