I've been there and no the feeling of being a burden all to well.
It's hard for others to understand what we are feeling with spinal pain and spinal problems when they have never had anything like it before.
They understand pain, but can not understand the kind of pain that comes with a spinal problem, the nerve pain and how pain in the spine affects every part of your body, how you can and can not move and almost anything you do or try to do, increases the pain.
It's hard to be able to think with this kind of pain.
It sounds like you had the epidural done without fluoroscopy. That is an x-ray going that would allow the doctor to see exactly where the needle should be placed to administer the epidural.
An MRI would not have helped with this, you need to have the fluoroscopy going at the same time the ESI is being done.
Any kind of ESI, nerve block etc, should never be done without fluoroscopy. It can be be dangerous as well as resulting in the horrible pain you felt when it was done and afterwards. Nerves where touched when it was done.
Having DDD is not a reason to deny a patient surgery or suggest that you shouldn't have surgery because of it.
There are a lot of spine doctors that don't even use the term, degenerative disc disease, anymore. That's because the name is a misnomer, DDD is not a disease, but rather a process of aging and because you have it in one or 2 areas of the spine does not mean it will progress and get worse in other areas of the spine.
It does sound like surgery is in your near future, starting with your neck. It will take time to recover from that surgery before they would do any surgery on your lumbar spine.
On the other hand, you may find that some conservative treatment will be available to you as well.
Also, in the hands of a well qualified pain management doctor, ESI for the cervical spine, and lumbar spine can be done very effectively and provide relief of pain.
A well qualified pain management doctor will use a flouroscopy machine and is well experienced in what he/she is doing. You would not have a repeat of your first ESI.
As for the doctor that wanted to do surgery the same week you saw him. I can understand your feelings. You where not comfortable with him and that is a good reason to find another doctor.
Did the doctor give you a reason for wanting to do the surgery the same week? Sometimes, the doctor will see a real reason to do so, but, that should be carefully explained to you.
I would advise you to have a list of questions to ask this next doctor you see. Have them based on what you have been told by the other doctors and be ready to ask questions about the specifics that you hear from this doctor as well.
I would also suggest that you bring another person with you so that you have a second set of eyes and ears.
I say eyes because I feel it is important to have someone other than you actually see and watch how the doctor interacts with you, the patient and the person that you bring with you. How relaxed does he/she appear, how does the doctor respond to your questions, what kind of look is on the doctors face. Is it relaxed and ready to answer all your questions or is there that look of not wanting to answer all the questions, explain things etc.
Ears, so that someone else can hear everything that the doctor says. you may not hear everything that is being said because you are the patient and it's difficult to absorb everything that is being said. With a second pair of ears, you have another person to pick up on what is said and to also ask questions as well.
If you have a doctor that is not eager to explain things, answer your questions, you need to find another doctor.
A good doctor will appreciate the questions, and be glad to explain things so that the patient, family and friends are well informed about the entire situation.
Good luck and if you have any questions you want to ask me, just ask away or PM me.
Fran