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this happened a long while ago but i just wanted to know how an i suppose to react, what do i say?
i had company and it was in the mid afternoon. i walked in my son's room and he was doing it out side of his clothes. he was just motioning his hand to keep it standing up.
he told me his teacher told him about it. and he also said it felt good.
the advice i've gotten was

dont make him feel bad about it, b/c it's natural
tell him it's wrong, it's a sin.
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replied May 24th, 2009
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Why would a teacher tell him about it?

Other than the above I would not have made a big deal...teen boys will explore their bodies...next time he should lock his door or parents should knock before entering Smile
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replied May 24th, 2009
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my son said something about him learning something in sex education.
i freak out, called my b/f, and he laughed at me and said the same thing "knock first".
i embarrassed him so much, i dont think he's going to do it again in the day time.
the people who gave me the advice of "it's wrong, it's a sin' masturbate themselves.
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replied May 25th, 2009
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After I found baby powder under my young teenagers mattress and after sharing this information with my husband he enlightened me as to why....so from that point on I knocked on his door...
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replied May 25th, 2009
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i think this sort of thing kinda "comes" with the territory...no pun intended. one of my co-workers had a similar experience with her teenage son.

while it was devastating to her, she just followed it up (after the fact) by talking to him and telling him that it's a natural thing to do and not to be embarrassed at all by it, but as a precaution to lock his door if he's going to do something like that, and she would make a point of respecting his privacy and knocking on the door.

he apologized to her and she said no apology was necessary, that all was forgotten and that they just needed to move forward.

she and her son have an outstanding relationship to this day (and this is 2 years after that happened).

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replied May 25th, 2009
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zigemyster wrote:
After I found baby powder under my young teenagers mattress and after sharing this information with my husband he enlightened me as to why....so from that point on I knocked on his door...


what's the baby powder for?
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replied June 9th, 2009
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Awkward...

Might try knocking next time.
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replied July 2nd, 2009
Before you can figure out what to tell your son, you need to figure out--for yourself--what you think about it rather than automatically assume there is a problem or relying on things you have heard from others or been taught to believe.
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replied July 2nd, 2009
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i think most guys baby power their balls!!!!!!!!!!!
incase they sweat!!!!!

how i feel!
i feel like he shouldnt masturbate and he should remain a virgin until marriage. but i honestly think that's not going to happen.
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replied July 2nd, 2009
Knock first, and don't make a big deal out of it. It's perfectly natural!
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replied March 5th, 2010
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serviceU... if you masterbate dosnt mean you have lost your viginity, boys will explore, its what they do.
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replied April 9th, 2010
Girls do it as well and most start way younger than boys and do it way more often. And any mother who does not remember what she did as a young girl is just not being honest with her self.
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replied June 20th, 2010
whats the baby powder for?? seriously!
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replied November 27th, 2011
It acts as a kind of lubricant, making the skin of the penis silky smooth so his hand can glide up and down without irritation. He probably found out early on that too much rubbing while "dry" can make him sore and raw. I think every young boy finds that out pretty quickly and learns how to deal with it.

The alternate way to masturbate without lubrication is to move the skin of the penis up and down without using friction. Even using this technique, it pays to keep the grip gentle to avoid making the inside of the urethra sore from applying too much pressure around the shaft.
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replied June 20th, 2010
its none of your business mom, I started jerking it before I could even orgasm, he was born with it, unless your going to cut it off him you should leave him alone. Honestly you sound like a sketch ball for even needing to ask us, or an evangelist/born again, and no not a good christian bc a good christian would know that people play with themselves, and they don't go blind from it. And honesty your not doing your son justice if you expect him to be married before he bones up on a chick, you should expect him to not have one night stands, and care deeply about a girl before they hit the sack, marriage is a sham 75% of people who get married are fated for divorce in this terrible culture.

Now that I'm done hating on you for no apparent reason because I'm angry that I'm up so late not getting work done, I'll give you some good advice. Never and I mean NNNNEEEEVVVVEEERR let your son or daughter have a cpu all by themselves in there room, or even access to it after your in bed. No it doesn't matter if you have filtering software they will get around that. I have a massive porn addiction from my parents not being smart about that kind of stuff when I was young.
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replied July 1st, 2010
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what is a cpu?
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replied July 1st, 2010
oh come onnnnnnn.
chill out.
he was wanking. woopdie do?
its natural.
+++ it feels good.
so you tell me. you dont masturbate?!
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replied July 6th, 2010
It's absolutly normal. Let him do it whenever he wants. its his age to experiment. give him some advice about woman to. it can keep him from getting gay. trust me if you don't handle this well he will think that he doesn't need women and he will turn gay. my friend had the same problem and didn't handle it properly, her son became attracted to men.
I had the same to, caught my son masturbating. I asked all over what i could do, 'cause i didn't wan't him to turn gay, I was worried. I got some good advice and it all turned well. write me I can give you some advice.
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replied July 8th, 2010
Wow llena that was offensive on 10 different levels. There is nothing wrong with being gay, and you don't "turn" gay through masturbation. I'm 15 and am quite proud of being gay. Your son is starting to masturbate, be glad that he is going to masturbate rather than be unsure sexually for the rest of his life. It would no doubt lead to self insecurities and even low self esteem. Doctors even say masturbation is healthy.

ServiceU do not make a big deal out of it, don't even talk about it. If your son approaches you, just tell him you don't mind and all kids his age do it. If you make him feel awkward or embarrassed he won't do it again, and that can lead to sexual frustration and or social awkwardness.

Masturbation is part of growing up.
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replied July 9th, 2010
Be strict
Just make them keep their doors open and take the locks off the bathroom, and check up on them at night or 'accidentally' open the bathroom door sometimes, so they don't feel comfortable doing it whenever they please. You don't even have to say anything to him but you can hint at it ('You were late, you weren't playing with yourself where you?')
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replied March 31st, 2011
OMG keep all doors open???? Get real! everyone does it and I think we should respect our children's privacy, their doing nothing wrong!
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replied July 9th, 2010
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Just let him do it. What will it really hurt if he does it. If it progresses to auto erotic asphixciation then you might want to have a little talk with him.
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