I't took me 5 years to figure out my wifes habbit,which is going to the washroom every time she eats and hearing the toilet flushing few times,It began one time when I heard her vomit and confronted her later about this .She denied it and thought I was crazy.This went on for years But I let it go.Finally I noticed this same routine so I finally had to spy on her and I was right, she was purging here food over the toilet.I was mad I how can I confront her on this.She would be devasted and in denial.This would probably cause tension in our marrige What sould I do?
Do you live in a city or near to a treatment center for eating disorders? You can call them and ask for help confronting her. IF you think it's affecting her life and are scared for her life, you can arrange an "intervention". The ultimate goal is that she seek treatment for the disease of addiction...but if she's not ready for it and is still in denial, there is nothing that you can really do to help, unfortunately. DO you want help finding a treatment center?
Yes I do live in the city and I do want to help her.It hasn't affected our lives yet only knowing what she's doing,I just don't know how to explain to her on how I found out and how she will take it. Thank for your reply.
Hamilton , Ont. You think I should wait awile to see if things get worse or see if she losing alot of wait? She eats healthy and exercise moderatly. This habbit or addiction has to do to maintain her wait.
Found a directory of eating disorder clinics in Hamilton and for all Canadian territories. I suggest that you contact any of these programs and direct your questions to the professionals in charge. To be honest, I don't have too much experience confronting someone who is actively participating in addictive behavior, so you'd be better to talk with someone with more experience who has the answers to your questions. Does that help?
if you was my husband i would be embarassed ,hurt and shocked that you'd spy but if you express your understanding your love and care and need to help me instead of anger i guess id be o.k as long as you follow through try to understand and do help me.(another bulimic wife keeping secrets,been bulimic 16 years it almost killed me)