I, too, am a Catholic but somehow this would not enter into my love for a person unless there was a controversy to start...This I am already seeing with you....Muslims are very strict...I know of cases where the marriage crumbles and the man takes or has taken the child and disappeared....These are all things that you must think about....BUT....think now, not later...

If there was such a big argument to start, where can this go?...Your best advice by many would be not to have children....I guess I would join in and raise my hand there....

I guess that there is no answer where there can be no answer....Only the two of you must decide the fate of an unborn child before it appears....

Best wishes,
Caroline

I agree with Caroline, I have heard of those stories too and it's scary.

I also agree, you have to look at personality..how he would react if upset..

One of my best friends has a muslim gf, she is muslim but not middle eastern, caribbean muslim and she doesn't seem religious at all.. Of course given this vice versa case being the woman the muslim is not really dangerous as if it is the man the one muslim. So take a look at personality, how strong his muslim background is, if he is lived in US for so long he might be "americanized". How about his family? When you get married his family will be part of yours and you will have to deal with their issues too. And you do have to imagine worst case scenario trust me, I have learned that the hard way.

good luck!

If you didn't have strong doubts yourself you would never had asked this question.

Go with your gut feeling...don't get married to him. Something is telling you not to do it, listen and don't argue. It's a warning.

Since he is so strong in his faith and you in yours. In his faith's eyes, once you two are married you are to live by his rules or else (to put it in nice terms), which means he will more than likely force you and your daughter to join his faith or else. You will not be equal in his eyes...

It's totally sad.

~Zig

It's already that way as that i came to kosovo to be with him and i am seeing that i am not equal nor was i ever, In fact i am going to be a nurse and he says that i am not allowed to return to work. I have to stay at home and not allowed to go anywhere ext...

Then i have been reading what the men here have the right to do to women and it makes me sick. so i do not know what to do as i have no choice but to do as i am told. I do know that i am tired of it. I love him but honestly can't deal with always being punished for bull $!!! reasons.. I am trying to go home but the embassy hasn't contacted me back yet so well see...

Wow so it looks that you are already on trouble. Runaway as fast as you can from that guy!

I agree with nightangel173.....Get away from this guy......In their eyes a woman has no rights and is an inferior person....It will not get better but worse...

Good luck...
Caroline

You would not be allowed to return to work and you would have to stay home as well as not being allowed to go anywhere, etc. That must be what prison would feel like.

Good luck and get away as soon as you can and don't look back, only forward to your happy future with your daughter, etc...

~Zig

Hi Latinawife.

Think seriously about all this before getting married. It's your life, your choice; you have but one life to live and there are many Ok guys out there.
I think if someone has to or is asked to give up his or her religion to marry another then something is wrong.
Now, if you lose your freedom on top of that then it's a no no.
You'll simply be controled, restricted and unequal.
I'm sure you could and can have a better and happier life, marriage and family.

Think not only with your heart but also with your mind. Think twice and I wish you the best.

ime a muslim man..yous are all talking asif every mulsim guy treats his wife as a slave, that is not true....dont be taken by the media.. my wife was catholic when we met and i had no problems neither did she..she works, she goes out does whateva she feels like i dont care aslong as shes happy, not every muslim is a extremist freak if u hadnt realized.. after a few years my wife (on her own account) looked into the religion and realized how great islam is and converted..as did my mum... so unless dis guy is a freak, just talk to him

Married this man, dont yoke yourself with an unbeliever, and also some Muslin countries pay muslim man to go and marry no muslim woman the Quran protect you so you dont have to change your religion but your children with him ARE FORCED to be Muslim.

we're on the same page. people around you will tell you different things. This is a best time to think what would be best for you and your family.

i feel for you, i am also on the stage of thinking how sad it is that i won't get to experience to go to church every sunday with my family. (kids wearing their sunday best dressed and stuff). but i guess i have to take it cause it's my choice.

me and my husband are of different religion, he's a sacred catholic and i am an Iglesia NI Cristo brethren. just like you we do not have any intentions of being converted to any religion aside from what we already have and believed in since birth.

before we got married we talked about what will our child's religion be, and we made a deal that he will be Christened in Catholic but i will eventually raise him in my Church. as agreed upon, the Christening happened last December 2008, and i'm just waiting for my little angel to come on age for him to be with me in my Church.

i guess good communication is the answer to all. or if that still won't work, try to orient your child to you and your husband's religion and when he is matured enough to learn the importance of each religion, let him choose where his calling is. this should be fair enough for him. let you child venture to different sects for as long as you know about it.

Let him nurture his own soul as he gets older. i know it would be hard, but let's just take it as a sign of respect for everybody's personal decision.

As per my situation, i am so thankful that we didn't go to that point. my husband is very understanding and he knows how improtant my religion to me, that's why he agreed to have my son raised in my church.

love lots,
guinevere

will I'm a muslim and I agree with vulcan .
If you need any specfic things to ask about islam you can relay on me .
and hope for you that things go on easly

you are totaly wrong. we have some muslims here like that but not evrey body

My bestfriend in highschool had a muslim dad and a catholic mom, her parents worked incredibly well together, although she was brought up muslim she chose to remain non-religious.

Her parents were very caring and never pressured her into anything and the mother remained catholic while the dad remained muslim.

In my case I am and atheist and I married a christian, I had more cultural and religious problems than most people do because my family is also religious. So majority of the time my family would take his side, as some of them still believe in a patriarchy society and felt once I had kids I needed to stay home. My own family stopped helping me, unless it was for the good of my kids, they were always in my face about my job and well Im getting divorced!

As far as I am concerned I am happy when I am working, I am not happy at home and Im going to pursue what I want.

I think you need to follow your gut on this one but make a choice and remember that it will be something that can affect you in the long run! If ever you want to chat feel free to send me an email, even though Im not catholic, I respect peoples religious beliefs until they are shoved down my throat!

I would like to tell you that in Islam muslim MEN are allowed to marry Catholics, Christians, and Jews. Only men if he doesnt know this then you should see exactly how much he knows about his religion.

I am muslim and when you (if you) seperate he doesnt HAVE to take the kids. Islam doesnt seem as bad as they make it seem. Some men prefer for their wives not to work and you know have to deal with the calamity in the out side but some will let you. And like I said before you just need to see where he is at in his religion first.

gstarr,
we know that all muslims arent like that, but she clearly said her future husband told her she cant work. so it looks like she is walking into a problem relationship. if she took the time to go to school, and have to pay back all those loans, and she gets married and her husband tells her she cant work.

i would never even talk to someone outside of my christian religion only b/c it causes conflict. if you marry this man, with you feeling scared right now, the marriage wont last, or you'll be unhappy.

The real Islamic instruction on this point is really very simple.

Both partners should respect each others' respective religions.

There should be no compulsion to convert by either partner upon the other.

The children should be raised and versed in both religions. When they reach an appropriate age (parents can decide if that age is maturity, 18, 21, whatever -- although Islam prefers maturity as correct age), then they will be free to make their decision.

There is nothing wrong with a Muslim man going to church on Sundays, and there is nothing wrong with a Christian woman attending the Mosque.

That's my humble opinion, but only God knows best (I am Muslim by the way).

Catholicism doesn't restrict you to marrying people outside of your own faith. There are a lot of Christian vows that require you to acknowlege God as your savior and protector in the union but the Bible itself makes to mention of marriage outside of the faith. Most of the evolution of Catholicism has come from literal marriage to other faiths.