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Q: cant stand home, only 15 can i leave legally?
asked by: monofobicgirl on August 21st, 2009
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hi im 15 nd i cant stand home. my dads over controling and my mother is mentally unstable always saying she wants to commit suicide. My dad wont let me see my byfriend cause of some stupid inncident. theres so many issues nd i just cant take t anymore, please someone, let me know
thanks, reply really soon Sad
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wendyrs
replied on August 21st, 2009
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I understand that home is not the best place right now and your mother shouldn't be talking about suicide in front of you, but if you left, where would you go? If you have a safe home of a friend or relative to live it probably wouldn't be a bad idea. However, many teens end up on the streets each year and that's not better than home. I think legally, it depends on your parents and where you are going. Will your parents fight you from leaving? Do they understand how you are feeling?
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monofobicgirl
replied on August 23rd, 2009
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yes they understand nd they state that i cannot leave r else they'll call the police and have me put away. \my mother i bipolar and i was put n anti depressents cause of cutting due to stress, but all that has stopped since i'e been with this guy. And i hav many places to go and they indeed would fight for me to say home. please let me know if theres any legal way of leaving thanks
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ServiceU
replied on August 23rd, 2009
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i m sorry you have to deal with such adult issues. i also glade to hear that there are safe places that you can go to. i thin the easiest way is to wait until your 18 when your able to walk away. you can look at it as if you have 2.5 years left to move into a stable safe comfortable environment.
child services was involved in my family, and they didnt do anything to remove my sister or me.
the only legal way is to try to get yourself emancipation proving that you can take care of yourself.
i wouldnt recordmend you run away, because that would be a bad idea.
is your mother trying to get help with her conditon? do you have any other siblings?
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monofobicgirl
replied on August 24th, 2009
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i hve 2 brothers ones 18 and has a baby on the way, the other is 16, and he has his girlfriend moving in my mother is on medictin but its not working, a couple days go she tried to commit suicide and she was going to o.d on her meds. i just cant take the stress,give me a couple links to follow to find out a way to leave at 15. its to much and makes me wanna run away
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ServiceU
replied on August 24th, 2009
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it breaks my heart to hear that you have to go through something like this at your age.
i dont want you to run away and then child services get involved and place you in a home.
who is the person that you are planning on living with?
your going to have an adult relative to stand up for you and able to try to get custody of you.
i dont know what else to say, but try to talk to your counselor at school to see if they can offer better advice in your situation.
did you talk to your brothers about how you feel? are they handling better?
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biteme94
replied on September 16th, 2009
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i hate parents we have a rite!!!
i want to leave home coz my mum just told me wat my hole family thinks of me n i cant stand it no more they dont want me n there shuld be some legal way fopr 15 year old teenageers be able to leave coz parents aren harshn they dont now wat u go through. i rather4 live on the street then stay with people that think im a bad person..my mum said if i leave they call the policeon me coz im a minor but its realy stupid coz we have a right to get freedom from all the pain that parents give us..
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ServiceU
replied on September 16th, 2009
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biteme94,
i known someone who lived on a college campus and had four years of her college paid for my grants and scholarships.
you only have a few years. why dont you research scholarships on the internet. this would be a win-win situation.
also know that there is no manual book of how to raise a child. if you are being promiscuous, your mother is probably acting out on hurt.
i dont beleive some parents should sit down and talk to their kids about problems that arise.
my mother had a problem with the transition of me being a teenager to an adult.
i never understand my mom until i had my son!
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Vilekyle
replied on November 13th, 2009
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Running away is not the awnser trust me! my girlfriend is mentally unstable and has recently ran away it has caused so much worry for her parents friends and those who care about her. She has now been missing for two weeks and is not taking her meds. For all we know she is dead! No one has heard from at all! shes gone! RUNNING AWAY will only make it worse. for evreyone especially yourself!
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Vilekyle
replied on November 13th, 2009
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Another good reason not to runaway! When parents seem hard on you and seems like evreyone is against you. Its probaly there weird way of showing there love and care for you. Try to understand there position. From what i know runnig away causes more problems than before, makes parents crazy worried and causes so much despair and other horrible feelings of regret trust me ive been thru it and am now going thru it now! my girlfriend decided to runaway now she is offically a missing report. she up and left with nothing not even a change of clothes. she is probaly dead. DONT RUNAWAY ESPECIALLY TEENS!!! its a brutal world!!
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Grover46
replied on November 21st, 2009
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I don't know what country your from but here in NZ you can leave home legally at 16.

This however would be a silly idea unless you had somewhere to go.
Call relatives first then try friends try to sort out a long term plan.

Do some research on the internet to find out when you can legally leave.

Call a helpline and ask for advice.

If stuff gets too hard then I would definitly suggest running away, just dont get yourself into a bad situation.
Sleep at a park for a few nights and let your parents ring the police.
This way it will step things up to the next level and you may get th results you desire.

Goodluck anyway. =]
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