everyday i hope that when i get up i will be over my ex boyfriend. we broke up after 15 years of being together. we broke up in december and has been alot of hatred towards each other since then he cheated and lied to me too much and i am beginning to find out all kinds of things bout him i didnt know it hurts to find all this out but i still love him. how can i still love him after all the things he has done and ways he has treated me . i dont understand that and we use to be best friends always together right before break up everything was good. i dont see how i can miss him so much but i do. most of the time i just wanna die i dont wanna be here anymore it hurts so bad dying is the only solution what can i do
I can understand what you might be going through but no one in this world is so much important especially one who cheated you that you think of dying for him.I know it is very easy to say but you have to be strong and determined as you have to come out of it.There are many other good people in this world and you deserve someone much better.
Try to involve yourself in other activities which you are fond of as music,movies,swimming.Spend time with your friends and family and do not be alone as you will ponder over the things.Go out and meet new people, world is so beautiful.Do some meditation/Yoga exercises which would help you in coming out.You can also visit a counsellor who can talk to you and listen carefully.
I really want you to come out and enjoy life.
I hope that by this time things have gotten much better for you. It sounds like you are spiraling into a deep depression that can get out of control! I understand how you feel, and I know it is hard to snap out of it, but for your mental and physical health you need to. 15 years is such a long time, but looking back on everything that led to now it seems like it is for the best. Cheating is a very hard thing to deal with, and you need to realize that it is not ok and you deserved a lot better than that. Sometimes over time, people and feelings towards one another change. There will be sunnier days down the road, and happiness will come. It is much easier for one to feel hopeless, but things won't get better if you don't allow it to. You will find true love again, and hopefully things will be even better than they were! Look at it as a learning experience. Don't let him have the satisfaction of knowing the problems he has caused and what he put you through is making you hurt and upset. Get back on your feet and live your life!
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