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roberto1066

July 28th, 2010

Hi there im 19 years old. I really want a girlfriend but when it comes to getting one i just cant. I consider myself sociable and go out most weekends to bars and clubs. Im not a shallow guy, when it comes to what i like in girls, personality is always top of my list. When i was 13 to 17 i had 4 or 5 girlfriends and it was great but since i have got older im finding it harder to get one. I got one about 8 months ago but i was trying to come up with things that are wrong with the girl when there wasnt anything wrong (it was as if i was scared or something) :@. Its starting to get me down, i dont know why im like this. Anyone Know?

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lil_scorpio

replied July 29th, 2010

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I don't think there is anything wrong with you. Your first problem is probably where you are looking for girls. Bars? Clubs? I'm pretty sure you know what kind of girl you will find there. If you are not shallow, like you said, then look for a girl at work, a coffee shop, somewhere with intelligance and perhaps arts. You never know.

Don't put too much pressure on the issue of having a girlfriend. Girls can totally pick up on that needy/pushy aura.

As for trying to doom the relationship for no reason, maybe you are feeling insecure for some reason. (We all do it.) Maybe you are afraid of being dumped for some silly reason and you feel that you must find fault first, so that you won't get hurt.

Long story short, you just need to relax. Look for girls in a more fitting environment (for the type of girl you like), not the bars/clubs. Be yourself, because confidence is super sexy. And just hang in there. It will happen when it's ment to happen. =)

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HogPotter

replied September 27th, 2010

You think it's cool to be a playboy? Well, it's disgusting for me.

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vsmack

replied October 20th, 2010

HogPotter wrote:

You think it's cool to be a playboy? Well, it's disgusting for me.

It's funny you bring that up because I'm the nicest guy out there and very respectful yet girls do not respond to this extreme behavior. It's so foreign so it
freaks them out. I'm basically balancing with the good of both worlds and it's attracting women left n right. Some people even think that I sleep with tons and tons of women but I don't. Before you get disgusted u gotta go beyond the cover and read that book well. If u see a playboy hey have fun and just talk with the guy first to see what he's really all bout. If girls accept him and want
To be with him something good is going on... Don't limit urself... but I understand u respect urself n that's awesome n so do I Wink

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Rosalinda

replied December 3rd, 2010

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I agree with lil_scorpio !
Also , if you are scared it means your not up for a relationship . Find out what you want , what you are looking for and look in the right place !
Be sincere with yourself , it's the only way to find out what is wrong with you.
I think you just need someone who can understand ,love and support you. But why are you running away?
In a relationship you have to put more from both of sides to make it work !

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aalina387

replied February 8th, 2011

I don't think any think is wrong with you.Be sincere with yourself.Find out what you want.Gives the impression early on is one of the most important things to remember. Don't limit your self...

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aalina387

replied February 11th, 2011

I think you should start spending time with girls.just talk with the guy first to see what he's really all bout.
To get people to like you, you only need to be yourself.

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