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J2108
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homerx
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| antigone wrote: |
| I am so sorry you are dealing with a broken heart on your own! I know that at 16 you can fall in love. It is not unusual to have your hear broken and to lament over the former boyfriend for awhile. This is not exclusive to your young age but that does play into it to a degree.
I don't know what to tell you about coming out with your parents. That is a difficult situation. You don't have open communication with them now. You will do this when you feel you are able to. Is there any possibility that you could talk to your mom? She does seem concerned about you and she does care, probably more than you know. If you shut her out then she has no way of reaching out to you. Think about finding ways to open up to her. I wish I could tell you more. You sound like a normal, heart broken teen. Whether straight or gay, the emotional aspect of a break up is the same. You need to give this time. You will be able to move past the thoughts of him and dwelling on him in time. It just takes time. You need to tell your friends that you need to talk about this. You feel lonely when they shut you out and won't listen. Feel free to post again. There is a forum for gay relationships. Perhaps that forum would offer some support to you. I wish you all the best. Teen years are difficult so just remember most teens go through what you are going through. Hugs. |
You R not alone...gay people are everywhere...and I mean everywhere...1 out of 10 people are gay so find your tribe and feel the love...its great when you get to the point where you can really be free to be you. Good Luck and keep in touch...
Peace,Love and Pride,
Homer
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homerx
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| forsakenhope wrote: |
| As GBLTs, we face much criticism from a world that is based on preconceptions, restrictions, and cruelty. I'm a transgender, and, trust me, I know what it's like to hide yourself, your true identity from your parents. It's like lying every minute of every second of every day, but you must be strong. It was very hard for me to come out to my parents, and today, I was told that I would not receive any financial backing from a father who believes that I am destroying myself. I was yelled at by an uncle who said that I am doing the most disrespectful thing he has ever seen. However, once I came out to my friends and family, I found great support; more people loved me for me than not. It may be hard, but you have to come out one day. If a parent says that he or she loves you for you, that your special and unique, he or she should stay true to that through thick and thin.
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I miss it a lot..i am sorry your father and uncle are being hateful to you...R they brothers? That would figure, intolerance often runs in families and intolerance for trans people is rampant in most all families...its sad..so stay strong,forsakenhope...your a great person and your family should feel lucky to have you as a part of them, I would.
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homerx
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homerx
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| Unifier wrote: |
| not *human* hag... the forum blocked the actual word - you know the score ;] its a girl shes your friend thats it tc x |
yeah, I tried to write f*g once and it did the same to me...the word don't bother me but whatever... 
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JYoungBear
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I hear you on the parents thing - I'm 30, have my own apartment an hour and a half away from them, and they don't really know that I'm gay, just yet... I'm sure they have their suspicions, since I haven't really had any girlfriends before.
I am still trying to build up my own strength to come out to those around me. However, I can tell it is going to be hard. Plus, with everything currently going on around me, I don't have the emotional stamina to do so.
And with the broken heart, I was there - I dated a guy for a few weeks when I first moved into my apartment, and we dated 4 times. In the end, I called him to see if he wanted to hang out one Saturday night, left him a voicemail to call me and let me know whats going on... and he never called back. We saw each other recently, as I was driving by him while he was working (works at the college down the street from me), and to see him looking at me nearly made me want to break down. That night when I realized I got stood up, and things weren't going to happen, I was crushed. I still crush after him a bit here and there, but I'm now dating a guy that is 100x better than the first one.
The point is, you will find someone to make you happy, and not play games with you. Sadly enough, it seems that those who choose to date / find love always get the short end of the stick when it comes to guys / girls that play games, cheat, etc. There are so few of us in this world that make it known that the games are not tolerated, and because of that, it's hard to find love. It comes and goes, just be wary of when it presents itself to you.
But if you ever want to talk, feel free to PM me. I usually check in at least once a day
I am still trying to build up my own strength to come out to those around me. However, I can tell it is going to be hard. Plus, with everything currently going on around me, I don't have the emotional stamina to do so.
And with the broken heart, I was there - I dated a guy for a few weeks when I first moved into my apartment, and we dated 4 times. In the end, I called him to see if he wanted to hang out one Saturday night, left him a voicemail to call me and let me know whats going on... and he never called back. We saw each other recently, as I was driving by him while he was working (works at the college down the street from me), and to see him looking at me nearly made me want to break down. That night when I realized I got stood up, and things weren't going to happen, I was crushed. I still crush after him a bit here and there, but I'm now dating a guy that is 100x better than the first one.
The point is, you will find someone to make you happy, and not play games with you. Sadly enough, it seems that those who choose to date / find love always get the short end of the stick when it comes to guys / girls that play games, cheat, etc. There are so few of us in this world that make it known that the games are not tolerated, and because of that, it's hard to find love. It comes and goes, just be wary of when it presents itself to you.
But if you ever want to talk, feel free to PM me. I usually check in at least once a day
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