After 10 years of no dating, sex or even looking. Yes I’d resolved that I wasn’t suppose to be with anyone. A man at my work got my attention. Coming by my office daily, walking with me in the halls, talking in the parking lot then finally casual dates, just getting to know one another. Now here 10 months after our first date we finally crossed the line and slept together, (yes we had sex), it was very enjoyable. After we were done about 15 minutes he said I couldn’t stay as it would be a relationship if we went past were we we’re at right then. At work he was very pleasant still so I sent him a few emails not much and also called him one week end twice, in which he never called back. On that Monday he called me and asked that I give him space as he was feeling confused and that he didn’t know how long it would take for him to sort out his feelings, one month six months he just didn’t know. Did I mention that he is recently divorced and that he is 61 years old and that I am 51 years young, (I do not look or act my age). My problem is that I see him daily at work; I have tried to ignore him as we pass in the halls, with him most always saying at least, “hi how are you doing”, to him trying to avoid me. Then a few weeks ago I said hi on my own which seems to surprise him. After which he has waiting for me outside we have had a few very causal conversations some work related also about the housing situation, as both he and I are buying homes. A few day’s ago he was being friendly and opened a door for me also was trying to talk to me yet I clamed up, he left and I didn’t even say bye no eye contact nothing. Now he’s trying to avoid me again and when we pass in the halls his hello Sharon sound more angry then nice.
Help me……………. I love him and do not know what to do.

Hopeless in Ceres California