my name is emman. I have a sexual problem, i can't seem to penerate my wife during sex withou Ejaculating and if i do penerate I ejaculat too early i mean as soon i enter. I am afried that i will loose my wife if i don't do something very fast. Can you help me please?
Hi there, thank you for posting your question on Ehealthforum. This is not intended as a substitute to visiting your own doctor.
You are describing so-called premature ejaculation. This is a complex subject, all I can do here is a thumbnail sketch about treatments. You basically have three choices and you can use any one of these or a combination of all:
(1) The DIY approach. This includes masturbation some hours before intercourse. Prolonging foreplay before intercourse. More forceful intercourse to bring her to orgasm quickly. The wearing of several condoms to reduce sensitivity. The use of OTCs like anaesthesia gels to reduce sensitivity. Most of these things yield mixed results
(2) Behavioural Therapy. These are best learned through Sex Therapy sessions where the femaleâs attitude to quick ejaculation can also be accessed. They involve stop/start techniques and learned behaviour designed to control ejaculation. These take time to learn but can be very effective.
(3) Use of medications like the SSRIâs and certain decongestant. These can be very effective and perhaps only used for special occasions.
One way or the other you should discuss this with your doctor or have yourself referred to a Sex Councillor. I feel very confident that you will improve quickly. Also remember, this may be just a transient thing. Given the degree of your problem perhaps you should go for (3) as an "interim solution". I hope you found this a bit helpful. Good luck.
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