Hi,

Obviously I don't know you circumstances and I in no way mean to offend when I say this, but in my experience, I have never been able to orgasm if I am not compleatly comfortable with the person I'm with (one night stand etc). For me, its mostly the mental state rather than the feeling.

Alternatively, I did watch a programme a few years ago (sorry I have no references) where other women were in your situation, (I don't know if they could make themselves orgasm) but they had surgery to inflate their g-spot, presumably making it more accessable. Although it was not properly understood how this would help, the women seemed delighted with the results, even claiming multiple orgasms.

I hope this has been hopeful and I urge you to mention this to your gp, don't worry about being embaraced, chances are they've experinced far worse situations and your health is most important.

thankyou, surgery sounds a little scary but maybe in the future i could try it out, and i think your right about the comfortableness with the person, and i am very comfortable with my boyfriend, weve been on and off for a while and i can do anything in front of him but the only thing i cant do is tell him ive been faking it, when i tell him i didt have one sometimes after we do it he gets mad at him self and it puts him in a terrible mood. i think my problem is that i am attracted to womens bodys for somereason, not in a way i want to be with them, just the private parts turn me on, and the males parts just dont turn me on much. so im guessing the mind set im in during sex isnt helping very much or something and it may be whats keeping me from haveing one, but at the same time i cant have one by myself either so its confusing

i m 32 and the first time i had an orgasm during sex was when i was 25. i would always climax but not go the mile to see stars.

the guys didn't take their time to know what i really like, or didn't do it very well.
first orgasm was in a riding position and i maneuver my body in a way that my clit would rub against the guy, so it was like masturbating & having sex. this position guarantee me an orgasm.

my current b/f is a freak and he's into pleasing me, so everything he does is like magic. but the majority of my orgasms comes by oral sex.