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Hi, I'm 17 and I just started having sex with my long-term boyfriend around March. One problem: I can't seem to finish!
I can orgasm on my own, but even with a self-effort I can't quite do it with my boyfriend lying next to me.

He's not exactly size-challenged, so sex is still a bit painful, but he's tried everything and we just can't make it happen for me. Him and I have a wonderful mental, emotional, intellectual, and physical connection... so why can't I have a, uh, happy ending?
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replied May 29th, 2008
Its normal
Some women are unable to orgasm if they are young. I have heard women say not until around 25 did they begin to have happy endings. Smile I have also heard that to much masturbation can make it harder to orgasm. I hope this helps.
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replied May 29th, 2008
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There shouldn't be pain when you're having sex. Try using more lubrication. If it hurts the stop and apply more lube or change angles.

Have you been able to orgasm before you started having sex? Do you tell him where to go and what to do? Can you get a clitoral orgasm?
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replied May 29th, 2008
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You need t understand your own body before someone else can understand yours.....

we stop ourselves because alot of us were raised on morals that it is wrong and subconcsiously it is engraved in the back of our minds. Being confident and understanding as well as trying new things helps. I know you are younger but sometimes doing something relaxing helps or even a glass of wine beforehand.

The majority of woman need to have double stimulation, sometimes intercourse itself isnt enough. Kegal exercises are a big bonus if you can control it, if you are focus too much on having an orgasm sometimes it just doesnt happen....
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replied June 29th, 2009
I had this problem with my boyfriend. Everything was great, but I couldn't seem to orgasm with him! It was SO frustrating, because he felt like he wasn't pleasing me. I understood my body, it just didn't seem to happen. Part of it was because I didn't tell him what I wanted him to do (I was really shy and felt bad about it), but sometimes it's just how your body is.

I have yet to have an orgasm during sex. I think it's just hard for me, however I do have a suggestion that worked wonders for me! Try this; have him lay on his back, and you straddle his face so he can give you oral. You can physically adjust where his tongue is, and change the pressure too. If you like powerplay (or just want to experiment), this position is good for that too.

It's not easy for a woman to cum sometimes. Just experiment, do what feels good, be open and honest (guys love making a girl cum, even if she has to tell him exactly how to do it!), and don't force it! Nothing kills your mood then worrying about whether or not you'll cum!

While it takes me a while to cum, it's always enjoyable and has never failed me! You don't know how happy I was that we had finally found a position that worked for me! I wish you the best of luck!
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