Okay, I'm a 32 year old male. I know it's late in life to finally fall for someone but it happened. After a 6 wonderful months it abruptly ended and I just can't seem to move on. I'll try not to ramble on too much here, but will supply the relevant information.

We met on Cupid.com back in early January and needless to say really hit it off. So much so that friends and family believed we'd be married before long. She seemed to just absolutely adore me. She was the first to even drop the "I love you" bomb. Every time we were together it felt like magic. She was always so affectionate and loving. The last time we were together (May 24th) I took her and her two daughters out to the movies and afterwards she insisted we sit in the car and kiss for awhile (the kids were in the house). I remember we stopped to take a breath and I asked her what she was thinking. She said "Just how much I love you." Things just seemed to be perfect.

But then over the next few weeks plans were being cancelled for this reason or that. Any new plans were kind of dismissed out of hand, but she always reassurred me we'd do something soon - she was just very busy (she does after all work as an EMT, is going to school to become a nurse and is raising two kids). And I also noticed our phone conversations were getting shorter and shorter and later at night. I attributed that to the fact we've gotten to know each other pretty well so hour long conversations on the phone were no longer necessary. But deep down I feared something wasn't right.

On the night of June 10th she called me at 11:10 (we usually liked to talk between 10 and 10:30). I told her how much I missed her and she said she missed me as well (the night before when we talked she had to squeeze an "I love you" in at the end of the conversation). I said "It seems like I'm never going to see you again." She responded "Of course you will." I suggested we get together sometime over the weekend - any day she had free was fine. She said her Aunt was coming down and was spending the weekend with her. I suggested perhaps sometime during the week, but she said she was too busy. Finally in exasperation I said "Hey, I'm trying here." That's when she said the following:

"I didn't want this."

In utter shock I responded "What, what? I'm confused, what are you talking about???"

She just sighed and repeated:

"I didn't want this. I know your getting the shaft here and I'm sorry about that."

I asked "So I guess were done, then?"

She said "Well, no."

There was silence and then she asked "What are you thinking?"

I was so shocked and confused I simply responded "Nothing...."

She asked what time I worked tomorrow and if she should let me go back to bed. I said "Yes. Goodnight."

I didn't hear from her again until June 22nd. She left me the following voice mail message (it's burned into my memory):

"Hey, it's Tina. It's 1:20 Sunday afternoon. I just wanted to call and talk. I feel that... there are things that need to be said. So if you want, give me a call when you get a chance...if you still have my number. I hope to talk to you soon. Bye."

When I told my friends and family that she called and what she said they all said under no circumstances call her - EVER! She's just trying to reel you back in! I figured perhaps she's just calling to get closure and almost everyone I talked to said that just doesn't happen. A girl doesn't call a guy she dumped two weeks later just to tell him why she dumped him. She wants something, either to start up the relationship again or to be friends. And it will only make things more painful. And this way you're sticking it to her by not returning her call. You have the last word. Leave it at that.

Well I took everyone's advice and didn't return her call, and I was told that I did the right thing. But deep down I wanted to. I would have at least been able to get some answers as to what the heck happened. But, is it possible she wanted to get back together, that she really missed me? I'm thinking now perhaps I've made the biggest mistake of my life. Perhaps this is why I'm having such trouble getting past this. I keep asking myself "What happened? I thought she loved me?" God knows I loved her, deeply. I figure it's way too late to call now, nearly 2 months later (actually, I keep hoping she'll call me again, but I know that's wishful thinking). But what do you think? Is it too late? Would it benefit me to call and see what she wanted to say? Do you think she'd even take my call now?

There are some days I want to call and beg her to take me back. I just loved her so much... I would have moved the heavens and the earth for her...

Any thoughts or opinions on any of this? Any imput would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.