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Can't get horny ?

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i have gaven myself an orgasm before.
but i dont get horny before hand.
actually ive never once gotten horny.
and theres no fluids after my orgasm.
also,
i dont like sex.
or oral. nothing feels good.
its uncomfortable and sometimes painfull.

my boyfriend of 2 years has never once turned me on.
and never once given me an orgasm from sex, fingering or oral.

is there something wrong?
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First Helper agonyauntem
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replied October 8th, 2009
Yes there is something wrong. However if you can make yourself orgasm it cant be anything serious...What I mean is, at least you know you are able to achieve it.

If your boyfriend has never made you feel horny, i dont think you are being fair to him or yourself by staying in the relationship...

That being said, How old are you? I know i did not start to feel horny or want sex until I was late teens (ie 18, 19) and the older i get the more i do.

Also how is your general health? Vitamin deficiencies or a poor diet can mean that you dont have a sex drive.

Also low self esteem. In my experience women need to feel like they are attractive to feel horny, maybe your boyfriend doesnt do a good enough job of making you feel like the most beautiful girl alive??

Or maybe you have some issues with sex? Maybe something happenned to put you off that you have not dealt with yet?

Also are you relaxing enough during sex? If you are concentrating on trying to have an orgasm it probably wont happen, likewise if you are daydreaming about what you have to do tomorrow etc..

Sex is a state of mind, you need to be in the moment and concentrating on how good it feels to be with this person. You need to connect physically and emotionally or the sex will be a let down.

Dont feel like you are the only one feeling this way - I know alot of girls who have had similar experiences and it always worked itself out somewhere down the line.
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