I'm 20 and not a virgin. I cannot get my penis really hard any more. I used to be able to but now my erection is kind of hard but still not completely, is there anyway I could test it to make sure it's hard enough for intercourse?
If I masturbate the erection will get softer during masturbation. I have to sort of tense or flex it (hard to explain) to keep it hard, but I can't do that for very long few seconds at the most. It won't stay hard on it's own but it used to. When I had sex for the first time I couldn't get really hard either and once I put a condom on my erection was completely gone and I was flaccid.
I'm currently eating a low calorie diet (enough to loose 1-2lbs fat a week) and wondering if that's got anything to do with it? I'm also constantly thinking about when I had sex and my penis just wasn't getting hard. However the masturbation thing was happening before that, also I can usually get really hard when I look at porn which is new and different.
Do I have a problem? How can I test my erection to see if it's hard enough for intercourse? Help!!
From the history given, it seems that your issues could be due to psychological causes (Stress and performance anxiety).
Good sex , needs a prepared and relaxed brain. When in stress or when self doubt takes over, the confidence and hence the performance drops.
The best sexual experience is when the couple is confident with their own body and sexuality as well as confident and are having a healthy sexual attraction towards their partner. When such a confidence builds in, then you will find that your issues will be solved.
When you dont get erections, it means that your penis needs some time, to get active. This happens often in most males and is not a thing to worry. Probably you are not aroused completely or you are stressed out. In such a situation, instead of beating yourselves up, just relax and cuddle together, for some time.
Seek your partners help for complete stimulation (Mutual masturbation , oral sex, etc can help in sexual arousal).
Watching movies which promote sexual intimacy will also help.
Once you are properly rested and aroused, you will have proper strong erections, and have satisfactory sex.
You might consult your doctor or a sexologist, who can prescribe you medications like cialis and viagra, which when used for a couple of times will help you gain your confidence.
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