I'm 18, I waited until 18 to be sexual and it's been about 8 months since I've started to be sexual. I've run into a few problems that have bothered me and sometimes make me worry a bit.
1 of them being that I have never physically been able to really pleasure myself. I've never had or used toys and even though I've tried masturbating, it doesn't work. I don't feel pleasure from it, nor satisfied. If anything, I just get more frustrated, sexually and in myself. Books, hentai, my boyfriend, all turn me on, but as for physically pleasuring myself, I've tried and failed. As of yet I've never been able to make myself cum.
The second problem led into a very embarassing talk with my boyfriend. I can't feel myself cum. I feel satisfied after sex and (the embarassing part) one time asking my boyfriend if I had come because I couldn't feel it. He'd assured me I had and he's been around the bend a few times, enough to know. Yet I can't feel it, and I've never had an orgasm, which I know isn't all that uncommon. Not feeling myself cum though, like not being able to make myself cum, worries me.
Is there something I need to know or is this normal in some sort of sense?
confused sooo much .. need help asap, vagina, cant feel cumming
my girlfriend cant feel herself cum but can feel orgasm... i don''t understand this.. is this normal? .. i have to finger till she orgasms which can take 20 minutes at the most really.. she says it annoys her cause she really wants to feel herslf cum.. in the middle of fingering she just randomly stops feeling it.. but feels a huge jolt of pleasure and starts to get really close to cumming..
but when she actually cums and i go to take my fingers out but she says she didnt know she came and wants me to keep going till she orgasms cause she says she cant feel herself cum ... help me out please asap... does she have a problem?..
Hi. I used to have the same problem for more than 7 years, my first orgasm was two years ago, I was 27. In my experience, my problem wasn't hormonal or psychological, I just had't found the right combination of stimuli. In my case, I need a potent vibrator in my clitoris, in full speed, for over twenty minutes, while watching hard-core hentai with gang-bang, tentacles, rape, etc (soft-core normal hentai won't do, neither will regular porn, since stories are unimaginative, actors are dull and I feel guilty promoting a business where actual people could get herpes or AIDS). I suggest you find out what kind of sexual material turns you on, no matter how twisted, and buy a potent vibrator... with different speeds... good luck.
Hi, I am 23 years old. I don't feel the need of masturbation yet. Even I cannot think of sexual activities with my boy friend. Some times I don't feel like imagining od sex with him? He will become my fiance within few days.Is it a serious matter or happens generally ? I am very worried about it.
Hi I have the same problem. I can not feel my self cum but my sexual partners in the past say I do cum and they are fairly experienced. I don't know what to do or what is wrong with me I have had one experience were he was fingering and I all of a sudden felt the erg to pee and I asked him to stop but that was only once help please!
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