Hi I am 19 years old and I can barely feel anything while having sex with my girlfriend and I cant climax either. I had sex for a half an hour and still couldn't feel anything or even get close to climaxing. I don't have any trouble feeling anything or climaxing when I masturbate by myself or in front of her. I can't feel it when she masturbates for me or gives me oral. I have tried using thin condoms and that didn't help. I stopped masturbating for a week and when I had sex again it still felt the same as it did before. I even tried thinking about sexual things while having sex and that didn't help either. This really bothers me and my girlfriend because we both want me to feel it. I really want to know what is wrong or how to fix this problem. Anyones help is appreciated. Thanks
Hi there, thank you for posting your question on Ehealthforum. This is not intended as a substitute to visiting your own doctor.
Ejaculatory incompetence or delayed ejaculation is complex. Usually the man does not have the same difficulty when alone and masturbating but, for some reason finds it very difficult to finish when his penis is inside his partnerâs vagina.
Perhaps you may need to discuss this with a Sex Councillor. It can be resolved through behavioural therapy. Show your partner how you masturbate, hold her hand while she does it for you. She should also verbally encourage you to come. Once you learn how to ejaculate in her company you can then move on to intercourse.
This will take time and patience and there may be some setbacks. But with perseverance you will succeed.
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