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Q: Can't enjoy sex

asked by: misty_eyes on April 28th, 2009

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I have been sexually active for about 4 years. I have ever gotten any good feeling out of sex. I have been with my husband for three years and we still do not have a great sex life. He feels good and is satisfied but sex, for me, doesn't feel like anything. I have tried toys, lube, positions, relaxing, making it fun you name it! But still I can't feel anything "good". I just feel his penis in there that's about it. I has gotten to the point where now he is getting frustrated wit the fact he can't please me. I have wondered if it is me and that there might be something wrong with me. I'm so desperate for an answer. I love my husband very much and we are in a very great place in our relationship but I feel like I'll go crazy if this is the way it will be for the rest of my life. Could there be something wrong with me or him?

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ServiceU

replied on April 28th, 2009

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i know of two women that either doesnt have a sex drive, or never had an orgasm.
do you ever get urges,get horny? do you masturbate? Is there anything that you like...rub, touch...
is your husband the only guy you've been with?
I've been with a few guys and one guy wont do anything for me whether he's big or small. then you'll meet someone else that will rock your world so good you can see stars.
i knew a couple who got into manasatwa because they had issues...which is bad.
since your married have you thought about seeing a sex therapist. try to do research on your issue on the net...this will give you free ideas.

misty_eyes

replied on April 29th, 2009

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Yes! I do! I want to but then when we start and it turns out the same as it always has i get very frustrated and upset. The only thing I do like and I can feel is when I play with my clitoris. When he kissed my neck it feels good. Actually having sex yes, only with my husband. Other things I've been with four. I have thought about a sex therapist but there is no way my hubby will agree. Thanks for replying.

ServiceU

replied on April 29th, 2009

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are you able to reach an orgasm by playing with your clitoris?
my ex of 5 years didn't do anything for me missionary style. what worked for us is the riding position...this was the only position we did for 2 1/2yrs. where i became an expert at. i learned how to maneuver my body over his so when i lifted myself up by my legs/thighs i would come down grinding on him (i think it was his fat stomach). i was guaranteed an orgasm. he thought he was superman but it wasn't him it was from mastering, he just happened to be inside me.
stay with the positions where your able to masturbate.

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