I have been with my current for just over 5 months now and to get to the straight to the point I can't seem to cum when i am with her,
When we started going out both of us virgins but around 1 month in we started having sex, the first few times it hurt as normal (i think) but now she doesnt experience any pain. However I do get a pain/discomfort sometimes during, as my foreskin gets pulled back and it becomes uncomfortable, it has bled once during sex and we just stopped, but not recently. Also there is no pain during sex if she is really wet, we tried water based lube but it is uncomfortable for her, it stings her as does the lube on Durex condoms. It also sometimes hurts when she is giving me a handjob and pulling it back too far.
I used to masturbate about once a day but ever since being with her I have turned that down to about once every 3-4 days. Whilst masturbating I have no problem at all cumming, normally takes around 5 minutes if I am going for it.
I admit that I am a bit of a worrier always thinking about if people can hear us and whether of not I am doing everything right. I just do not want to disappoint her so I keep thinking too much.
Could this all be down to stressing out? If so how do I overcome it?
Any advice or personal success stories would be greatly appreciated,
hi don't worry go see your doc it might be your foreskin thats tight or simply your being a bit too rough during sex so its irritating the skin plus your girlfriend sounds sensitive to lube, there loads of different types you can get, sounds silly but try more fore play too kt1901
i have the same problems too - where i am unable to cum whilst having sex but it isn't a problem when masturbating. i don't masturbate too often either. i got to thinking it was the difference in how it feels during sex to when i masturbate. i am also very worried about this and would like to get very this obstacle real soon.
Thanks for the advice guys, since the post I have now managed to cum, they way that worked for us is that she suggested if I would make myself cum but next to her (she said she read an post on the web somewhere that it helped), they I suggested if I would start to get near the point of Cumming and then let her finish it off, and she agreed and well it worked, she cheered at the end of it in relief but we tried everything else and nothing was working so we are going to keep trying this but bit by bit let her takeover completely.....
I have not managed to cum during sex but only because we haven't had a chance yet, I am sure that by doing the above it will make it easier..
Maybe you are not attracted by your girlfriend....you must see the reason by yourself,find out which are the things that make you uncomfortable. After that,you can be sure is she the one who makes you feel that way,or the problem is in you.