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I am 37,my fiance is 35, I have a 6 yr old daughter of my own, and he has 5yr old girl,11 and 14 yr old boys. We have been trying to save and get a place of our own, but of course something always comes up and we get set back. We just found out I am pregnant,and we said if it happens we will deal with it and make it. Well, we can't afford a child right now, we would both love to have one together,we have been together for a year and plan on getting married,we love each other more than words can say. I had an abortion when i was 18 and regret it everyday. I want this child very badly and im not getting any younger either and this would be my last chance for this,and he thinks rationally about the future and just trying to move on with out life finally,and financially. So, we have an appt to abort next week and I feel awful about it and he does too but I don't see how we could make it with another child right now. I am so torn. Please help! Don't want to go thru what i did when I was 18.
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replied April 8th, 2009
I think every child is a blessing. I am dealing with the same thing myself i think i might be pregnant and well we are not ready for a kid. I think that if it happens then things will work out. If you get and abortion again you will regret it even more. I would suggest not to put yourself through that pain. You only live once and all things happen for a reason, enjoy your new baby and money will sort it's self out.
good luck
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replied April 8th, 2009
I think you definitely should not have an abortion. If you want this baby, and you feel bad about having an abortion don't do it! I know how hard it is financially, but you will be fine you have no choice. You are 37 and you might not have a chance to get pregnant again, also there might never be a right time for a baby in your life. If you got pregnant that means that you were meant to get pregnant and when you see your baby you will know that it was all worth it.
Keep the child and I'm sure you will be very happy!
Good Luck!
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replied April 9th, 2009
When i first found out i was pregnant I wanted the baby but after thinking about other stuff like having a career,husband, money and all the other things we worry about in life I decided that i was going to get an abortion because it wasn't the right time. After long hard thinking I went against it because i know that deep down I love the little one who was growing inside of me. I know things might be rough right now but have some faith that everything will work out.
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replied April 11th, 2009
Thank you!
To Sunday_100,Anya306 and young21, thank you for taking your expressing your feelings on my issue. As a result, we have decided to have this little surprise bundle of joy! We have a long road ahead of us and are both willing to work at this to make it a happy family. I showed my fiance what I sent and your responses and afterwards we had a very intense and loving conversation and at that time we decided on the right thing to do. So, thank you all for your help and support, a baby's life was just saved from your encouraging words and honesty that made us think deeper into ourselves for the right answer.God Bless you all and best wishes to you also:)
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replied April 11th, 2009
Oh I am so happy! I'm having goosebumps right now!
I wish you all the luck and love in the world, and enjoy your baby, you made the right decision!
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replied April 13th, 2009
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thats wonderful and we are in your shoes too we have one and one on the way and we cant afford it but we see it like this God would not put something on you that you cant handle im here if you want to talk.
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replied May 18th, 2009
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every living thing belongs to god. your baby that you plan on murdering may not have all it's limbs yet but has a beating heart and is in the process of developing all other vital organs. just because it isn't big doesn't make it less of a life. a 5 week old embryo has the foundation for her nervous system, including the brain. She has a beating heart 80 times a minute. psalms 139:16 'your eyes saw even the embryo of me and in your book all its parts were down in writing'
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replied April 5th, 2012
ohhh my god, i realy dont no anymore what to do, i'm in the same situation (pregnant and after this contract at work they won renew it anymore so i'll be jobless) and on top of all that my boyfriend does'nt whant to have a kid specialy not in this financialy critical moment, i already have an appointement for an abortion in 2 weeks and i already feel soooo terrible ;(( please somedbody just to have another idea tell me what to do cauz here its only me against my boyfriend wich is not going to well , i dont have his support what so ever on keeping the baby, and i will give anything to have this child but at the same time how i'm going to provide for it???? ;( what should i do??
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