I'm an optimistic and a very positive guy.

But I hate to say it but I don't think there is any possible chance to get back with her.

But PM me, I have an idea

-Peter

Well my opinion is that if she really loves you, and she feels the love that you have for her, you will eventually get back together. She graduated and you are still attending college right? Maybe just give her a lil' time to gather her thoughts....but not too much time....you don't want her meeting another guy. If I was you, I would make a list of all the things that you do that she views as childish. Read the list to yourself and train yourself to act more mature at all times. She will notice a difference in you eventually and see that you tried. I bet that you two will get back together.

Actually we both graduated college, sorry if i wasn't clear on that.

Well good luck with evreything.

Hi there,

Since you planned to marry her, but she has now broken up with you, it is probably best to try and break all contact! If you remain friends it will just hurt you more.

Since you live in different states even, its not so realistic that you'll get back together?

Try to see it from her perspective too. She wants to see that you really take her seriously. You could travel to where she lives, maybe give her flowers! Instead of talking to her online. Now that COULD win her back, hehe.

annette is right the longer u hold on the longer its gonna hurt. Ive been through something simular. your only 23 and there is plenty of time 2 find someone else.

His age doesn't matter...pain is pain no matter how old you are.

Having said that, we don't really know enough to know whether or not you'll end up back with this girl. This whole thing just sucks, no one should have to go through it.

You said you broke up in the past and got back together after 5 months. Wow how did that work and what was that situation about? Answer that question and ill have a better view on your situation.

When your girlfriend decides she's had enough and wants to move on to see other people, it can really hurt. I know it's not exactly "manly" to let it be known that we feel pain like anyone else, but that doesn't change the fact that we do. Well, there are plenty of ways to get over that pain and even get back together with your ex girlfriend, and I'm here to help you!

Getting back with your ex isn't going to be a walk in the park, but there's a system to it that can simplify things and make it way easier than it could be. Even then, there's no guarantee that it works for everyone, and honestly anybody who says "my way is 100% flawless and guaranteed" is lying. No single method works 100% of the time with 100% of the people, but this process I'm about to show you is one of the most effective ones out there.

First things first, when the breakup actually happens, don't go chasing after her begging her to come back to you. It's not very manly, and it's not going to get you anywhere anyways. She's made up her mind, she's probably angry or hurt or both, and seeing MORE of you right at this time isn't really on her list of favorite things to do.

Give her some space, some time to heal and get herself back in order. While she's sorting her own things out, you need to be doing some thinking yourself. Painful as it is, it's been made clear that the two of you as you both are will NOT end up working things out. SHE'S not going to change, so if you want to make it work with her YOU'RE going to have to be the one to change.

Analyze your relationship with her, and really figure out what YOU did wrong. If you already know what it was, that's great...some girls will tell you what the problems are when they break up with you. Not all of them do though, so you may have to do some thinking here. Once you figure it out and make a list of the things you did to contribute to the demise of the relationship, you have some more work ahead of you.

You have to take those flaws and errors you have or have made, and get rid of them. Stop doing the things that drive her away, and start doing things to draw her to you. A lot of this depends on the specific girl and what her individual needs and expectations are, so you can tell yourself exactly what it is you need to do better than I could, since you know her better than I do.

Whatever the case may be, you need to work your issues out and solve your biggest problems. When you're either done with that or are well on the road to being done with it, you can reinitiate contact with your ex. Remember to keep it simple and light, calling about the breakup or getting back together isn't usually met with much positivity. A pretty tried-and-true example of a first contact is to see how she's been doing since the breakup. It's light, shows you care, and doesn't start getting into "oh my God I miss you so much come back."

Once you've established contact again, slowly build back up with a few contacts here and there, light and friendly without getting TOO friendly. Eventually you two will probably start spending time together, and at this point it's important to spend this time doing things the two of you always really enjoyed doing before when you were a couple. Doing something fun and familiar should bring fond memories to the surface, and start to rekindle a little of what she felt for you in the past.

Really, from here it's just playing it by ear. Pay attention to her, listen to her, and watch for any signals that she may still be in love with you. Let her see for herself that the problems you had that assisted the ending of the relationship have been dealt with or are in the process of being dealt with. Be the guy she fell in love with, only without the faults that made her leave.

Following this procedure tends to have excellent results, guys. No other "technique" has as high a success rate, because this one actually fixes the problems. If she loves you, she WANTS to be with you, she just doesn't want to be unhappy while she is. That's why she left! If you make it so that you're not causing her unhappiness and she can see that you won't be, she'll be far more open to giving it another shot.

So give it a go, see what happens. I guarantee you'll be surprised at how much easier it seems. Good luck! =)

You must be hurting so badly I am still in love with my ex, we broke up 18 months ago and were meant to get married. It does hurt, and that thought that you may have to spend the rest of your life without them is horrible and you wonder how you will cope, but I am a great believer in if it is meant to be, it will be. Just give her some space, but not too much, you don't want her to think that you don't care. Maybe just a little text or message every so often just saying hi, how are you, or find a reason to contact her with something you know she likes but doesn't look like you are checking up on her, maybe something saying that you just saw her favourite actress has a new movie out or send her a funny photo of something she will find cute. My ex does things like that all the time, as he isn't being too clingy or like he is checking up on me, but showing that he is always thinking of me and it always makes me smile.

She obviously has things she needs to think about and may be worrying now that she has graduated and is in the big real world that she needs to be a proper grown-up and do everything a certain way. Us girls do think things like that and maybe she thinks that you aren't mature enough to move forward in your new lives together, but I am sure that you can prove that you can be mature enough to move on with her.

Although I wish every day that I could be with my ex again, I never doubt his love for me, and he still tells me often that he loves me, so make sure she never doubts how you feel. Good luck!