DO NOT do this! Just from your post I can tell you dont really like this guy. You shouldnt have to force anything. IF you do go for it then you will just use him and he or you doesnt deserve it.

I know from experience because I was once like you.

how old are you? i only ask this because typically younger girls are attracted to the "bad boys" ...have you even given this nice guy a chance? you know I was in a similar situation a while back..and i really regret not giving the guy more of a chance...like you, i was bored and he wasn't what I was looking for...but now i think back and wonder "what if...."...i mean i never gave the guy a chance...the bad boys will get old....

Im 21. but still new to the whole dating scene. I have went on a few dates with him and talk every day. He kissed me on the 3rd date..it was a little awkward cuz i wasnt expecting it..but ive had way worse! Thats why I came here...I dont wanna pass him up because hes a great catch! and i really dont wanna regret not giving him a chance...But hes already falling for me hard..so im afraid to give him a chance and things not working like i want...and hurting him in the end. I dont know what to do!!!

Honey, I was attracted to jocks...I loved sports and loved a man that had that attitude that so many of them have...I had two other choices, but the second I met him I knew that he was the one...Unfortunately, many other women thought this too...I don't know where I would be now if I hadn't married him as I love him as much as the minute I met him...Oh, and may I add, he is the only man that ever stood me up...

Let yourself age a bit...Play the field...Let the bad boys grow and let yourself mellow....Don't go too deep into an affair where you can hurt someone...It just may bite you in the face years from now...I firmly believe that what goes around comes around...Make sure before you play this game called love....Study life...Take one day at a time...Don't make the mistake that so many women make and jump on the bandwagon before you are ready....This is the best advice I can give you....

I wish you well...

Caroline

Staying with someone you don't have chemistry with isn't fair to you or to him. When I was 17, I started dating this guy who was basically my best friend. I sort of liked him, but didn't really find him attractive and we didn't really have dating chemistry. I thought it would get better. I didn't want to hurt him, but I ended up emotionally pushing him away by picking fights and being generally...witchy. The break up was really bad.

I guess the moral of the story is that if you don't like a guy in that way, you can't make yourself.

I think part of the draw of bad boys is the macho quality. A lot of guys today are more sensitive and romantic types, which is fine for some girls, but not every girl. There are guys out there that are in the middle. You need to find a guy who you click with, but who is also good for you. They're out there, you just have to recognize them.

I also agree that a lot of this comes with getting a bit older. Not only because you mature, but because the guys do, too.

Good luck. Let the guy down easy. Tell him how great you think he is, but that you just don't think the chemistry is right.

You guys are right. I know im still young, but the thought of not knowing who mr. right is, is kinda stressin me out. It could be him, it could be another man 5 years from now. I hate not knowing. Who knows, I could send prince charming away and not even know it! If i do find the right guy, I still dont plan to wed until a few years have passed...just to make sure its gonna last forever. The thing is, I have tried numerous times, many different ways that he's comin off too strong and that I like to take things slow. Im worried that maybe somehow im leadin him on. Im a sweetheart so the thought of hurting him hurts me. So I cant be mean about it. I just dont know what to do...

Don't worry about "Mr. Right" right now. My thoughts on it are that if you are too focused on meeting the right person (especially if you have a list of requirements that goes beyond "he's a nice guy who treats me right") you're going to miss a lot of other great guys. Every guy you date doesn't have to be the "forever" guy. And you won't know for sure who the "forever" guy is until you've known him a while. It may not even be the guy you think at first. Don't worry about missing him because if love depended on everyone finding the one single person who they were "meant to be with," no one would find love. There are a lot of Mr. Rights out there. Take your pick.

As for the current guy, letting him down easy isn't easy (ha ha). Jut be straight with him. Don't beat around the bush too much. Tell him what a great guy you think he is, but that things are going too fast and are too intense. You aren't ready for it. Be open and honest about it, but gentle.

life is all about experiences
i've been with thug guys and i can tell you horror stories. nothing good had come out of those relationships.
my current boyfriend is just like the guy your dating right now. i wasnt all that attracted to him, but i fell in love with him so hard, and the sex is so good. we've been together for two years and there is no drama, hurt, bad feelings etc. when i turn 89 years old i still will never forget him. so i think you should give it a try even if it doesn't work out.
if he is that good of a guy-don't be the "bad girl to him"