A person will change if they want to change, But I think that you are afraid to make that commitment, and take on the responsibility, that comes with a homely and family life.

Your allowed to have "me" time be that once a week with your mates.. but you have to consider your partners feelings.

You just can't go out when you feel like it. You take your partner as well.

You have to really, really think about it. You said you want to be sure as you don't want to hurt anyone... But you don't want to be hurt either do you?

Take your time...

Yep i agree but when you are in a relationship you are commited to you will know yourself becasue you will want to take her out with you and spend more time with her less with your mates it comes naturally with love....Jenny

i usually date older guys who feel like they have "been there done that"and ready to settle down.
you should continue to date until your 100% sure, so sure that it doesn't have to be a question, that your ready to settle down,and you feel deep down inside that this person is the one.
my ex of 5 years was confused our whole relationship. at the end, he wanted my son and i gone, so he can date. the girl dumped him after one year, treated him bad, and told him the sex was bad. when we had an electric sex life. he cried for me back or to be friends. but i m in a new relationship and happy.
so please be sure when you get into a committed relationship.

actually i think you should settle down before you find your self contracting a std or before you have sex with enough people to the point that when you fall in love the poor girl cant satisfy your sexual needs